A love that was never meant to be

[size=5]It was never meant to be. He lied that he was single. I found out he's not. Yes, he did divorced like what he said but they got back together 2 yrs back. We continued for 3 months, and until 3 days ago, I couldn't take it anymore, I initiated a break-up. I really can't explain the pain that pierced thru my heart. I wanted him back so badly. I'm still trying... though I ask myself is it worth the try at all. He has cheated on his wife many times and if he leaves his wife the 2nd time, he's gonna cheat on me too. Why do I still wan him by my side? Every weekend hurts.. cos I would think that they're spending time happily as a family, though his wife already knows about my existence. I wan him back... I seriously do wan him back...

Hi lolli-milo, welcome to the forum

Tough! Feelings don't let the brain tell them how to behave. That's the hard part of it. I'm sure you know this man is no good. Not for you - anyway.


Can't you take a vacation, meet new people - start an interest. In the beginning you won't even concentrate, but as time passes by your feelings will more and more follow your brain and instincts which most surely will tell you to chose for yourself first.... just like he seems to be doing.

Thanks ayngel.. I noe I have to move on with my life. I noe if there's someone new right now, i would leave him without any doubt. I wanted to take a vacation alone but tat's gonna make me worse. My life sux.. my ex died in Aug 06 and if he's still alive, i wouldn't be searching for anyone else. SIGH... why do men lie?

Lolli_milo, the worst reason to start or stay in a relationship is because you 'need' someone. It is a startingpoint that will make everyone very dependend on the one that is 'needed'. I don't want to sound as a -know-it-all- but, if at all possible, try to build up an indepedent life on your own and only then get interested in relationships again...

I'm so sorry to hear about your ex.

Late last week he started talking to me. Yesterday (Tues), I duno how it happened but I accidentally answered a call without knowing. He overheard my conversation with my trainer in the gym. Anyway to cut the story short, he ACCUSED me of having an AFFAIR!!! He wanted to break up and said he'll never see me again.

I was so angry cos he is the one who's having an affair. I am losing my job cos of him. I can't concentrate cos of him. I decided to call his wife and tell her everything about us. That would only be my last resort, I told myself before.

Of cos they had a fight. Then he started becoming a weakling, saying sorry to me, he didn't mean it etc. He had to do that to calm me down of cos. Else I will tell the wife even more things. I shouted at him for the 1st time in 3 months.

I am just heartbroken. After doing so much for him, spending so much energy on him, he just don't realise his mistakes.