been a while and suddenly i wanna do it again

ill start by saying we broke up a few times though most of them were never serious. only twice have we gone an extended period of time with no contact including now. the last time i initiated it thinking i could do better but i realized i didnt want anyone else. now this time it was her.

so anyway, we broke up a lil over half a year ago. she made contact with a close friend of mine who informed me shed take me back given the right circumstances. we talked for a few weeks on a friendly basis and it turned sour on her part out of nowhere. the last time we really spoke was on my bday which wasnt too pleasant but she said happy bday and w/e and that was basically it. i tried to call her a few weeks later and she just gave the phone to her friend for her to tell me to back off.

shortly after that i asked for some stuff back and asked her not to burn this bridge(just having me as some sort of contact in case of emergency or w/e) and she sent it along with a letter of which ive never seen so much effort put into. i mean perfect handwriting the margins were torn off perfectly, fancy paper and fancy envelope. she said it hurts to speak to me and she just wants me to let her be for now. ok i was doin that anyway

well a month or two went by and i texted her happy new year in a drunken happy new year texting stupor(its not like i texted ONLY her ). the thing is i expected no reply i was just being friendly and she responded, but i left it at that. well i was on vacation at that time and since i got back i started thinking about her more. its not just her either, i miss her family too which is a lil weird for me i guess.

now ive been hangin around other girls checkin out whats around n whatnot cuz i wasnt really counting on the feelings to resurface in such a way where id seriously want her back. now it kinda threw me off cuz i can get more attractive girls but lately something has been itching me to get in touch with her, also cuz a close friend was going to get me with her cousin(who is a helluva cool hottie). ive thought about it thoroughly cuz im not one to make split decisions in this department and i realized why id want her back and sorted out what had happened in the past in my mind before i could even think of talking to her. theres no use in getting into the same bs all over again, we both needed to sort things out.

now im pretty confident i could get her back and a lot of others including some who know her and one of my old roommates who occasionally speaks to her believe so as well. well now that youve gotten the gist of it, whats your take?? cuz i just want some sort of opinion outside my group of friends. im happy as a pig in @#$% on my own now when 6 months ago i couldnt be more miserable(though i played it off well). any advice or input on how to make this go smoother would be nice...cuz im going through with it and i kinda refuse to fail. i know when she first answers she prolly wont be too pleasant but its not the first time i personally know how to handle it. thank youuuuuu

seaniboi77 wrote:

shortly after that i asked for some stuff back and asked her not to burn this bridge(just having me as some sort of contact in case of emergency or w/e) and she sent it along with a letter of which ive never seen so much effort put into. i mean perfect handwriting the margins were torn off perfectly, fancy paper and fancy envelope. she said it hurts to speak to me and she just wants me to let her be for now. ok i was doin that anyway

Sounds like if she really wanted to end things, she wouldn't have gone to the trouble of making that letter. You could write one back to her so that she doesn't have the pressure of responding as quickly as she would with a phone call. Make your position clear though and let her know that you're open to talk things over.

so anyway, we broke up a lil over half a year ago. she made contact with a close friend of mine who informed me shed take me back given the right circumstances

Do you know what these circumstances are? Maybe your friend knows and could help you with this situation.

about the letter thats exactly what i had said. why go through such trouble? i know she likes to get things perfect a alot but i never saw her put that much effort into a letter. i do know what the given circumstances are. alotta bad stuff happened to me over the years that she had helped me through. alotta these things got screwed up over the last few months. my grandfather had passed away and i started doing drugs again though i refused to be high around her out of respect for her. i lost my job my license my car. for the most part these things have been patched up and ive been clean for a while without any help at all. thanks for the input, anything else?

Not at the moment. Let me know how it works out.

im not doing anything until after v-day. id like to avoid any...frustrations that it may cause. i feel sorta strange about it cuz weve both let go of each other, but i guess thats a good thing in a way.

i was out with my friends last night and this one girl we chill with said that ive been oozing confidence lately and that it will go far in getting any girl let alone getting her back. guess im in a good place in general right now