Boy friend problems Help!

i need help. i have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 years now, and he has completly changed.

when i first met him, he was the shy, never talked to girls, hopeless romantic type. now, its all about him and what he wants.

he used to get so mad at me when we first went out, saying that i wasnt 'romantic' enough, so now i am, and hes the one who isnt. he NEVER does anything he said he would when we first met. im the one doing everything here. i even help him with his college homework. (he wouldnt have made it this far without my help) and he cant even wish me good luck on my auditions i had last week or even ask me how they went. is this me being selfish?

he also has this thing where he keeps wishing i would turn democrat for him. (hes a dem. and im a rep., ) and i said, im sorry, but u cant change someone. see? its all about him and what he wants. he keeps bringing it up and we almost broke up over it. its not like im even into politics or anything. i just keep my mouth shut.

another thing is last year was his senior prom, and i couldnt make it because i was visiting my brother in the army. he actually wanted to ask another girl to go because this was HIS senior prom, and he wanted to go with or without me. uh, hello we can still go next year.

i also realize that im the one asking about his day, about how school is going, ect. i dont think he has ever once asked me. i just dont know. he has completly changed.

i dont know if this is just me, but he tells me that he is now talking to our manager on myspace. so since he said i could go on his anytime, i went on and he is talking to this girl like he talks to me. i mean, he doesnt talk to his guy friends like that, so why would he talk to girls like that? there is no evidence of cheating, but i just think he has a thing for her.

i dont know. please help me. he does love me, and i know that. he always talks about getting married and everything, but i dont know what to do because if it has actually gotten down to me having to look at his myspace to make sure he is not cheating, i dont know what will happen later.

i love him with all my heart, but i dont know if i can go on being happy. ive tried talking to him, but he just gets offended and sais 'how can u even think that?'

please help me i dont know what to do

i also thought of doing a break for a little bit. maybe that will make him realize? its been 2 years and 3 months and we havent broken up at all, but about a month ago we got into a fight and he asked if we should do that and i said that might be a good idea, but then he changed his mind and said that when he gave me my promise ring 2 years ago, that was to make sure we were never apart.

i dont know. if i do, i cant just end it. i would have to give him a really good reason.

please help

I said this on a post a couple minutes ago and I always go by this phrase as cliche as it is but "action speaks louder than words". Deep in your heart, you know he doesn't treat you well and doesn't respect you these days. There's a girl I know who says she loves me all the time but in my heart, I never believed her. Someone who loves you will always look out for your best interests and not trying to change you into a creation of theirs. Just because he says he'll marry you doesn't mean he loves you and besides marriage is a lot more than about love. And about him wanting to go to a senior prom with another girl because you're off to see your brother in the military shows that he's not mature enough to handle a sacrifice for you. If I was in love with a girl, I wouldn't think twice about that. I'd probably still go to the prom but with just my friends.

I think it's a good idea that you two take a break from each other. Something tells me that you probably know you want to do before you even posted this. You just want some affirmation from an outsider.

Jto welcome to the forum

I agree with Jewelman. I also think it is a good idea for you two to have a break so he can see what he will miss.

On the other hand... only do this when you feel fed-up with the situation. If you feel this is not how you want to live with him.