Boy friend trouble. PLEASE HELP........ I am 28 years old and I am dating a 49 year old man?

I have been dating this guy for the past 4 months. Last week I broke it off with him because he was always wanting to spend time with his friends and not me. and when we would go to dinner he would always invite his friends to come a long too. He is a successful man divorced with kids. He has a son that is 25. I have a 10 year old girl myself and I am successful too so I am not in it for the money. We got back together last week but a girl showed up at my door last night saying she is seeing him too and showed me several text messages from him. He says he is not cheating and never would. He thinks that its someone trying to set him up and believes and says its my ex b/f because he was in town the day the girl came to my house. He's a lawyer and I am in the legal field. A friend of mine doesn't like him at all and claims that I am just a trophy to show off to his friends but she has never met him before just from what I have told her. Should I believe him or believe that my ex b/f would do something like this?
Im just so confused

Get more information from her and see if her story fits.

I can't she just came to my door told me who she was said she knew who i was showed me the text messages and said to back off her man and left.

Did what she say make sense though? It's weird that he would want to be with his friends more than being with you.

Did his number show up on her phone? Whole situation sounds really bizarre. Do you like this man? Do you have her contact info? IS your ex crazy enough to do this sort of thing to you?

you could just say you need space and don't talk to him for a little while. You might find that the time alone makes him come clean about it.

You said you broke it off with him because he was spending time with his friends and not you. I say you should trust your instincts and that this reaction is your best reaction. To break it off with him. This is a sign of what is to come in the relationship. The other issue about him possibly seeing another girl or your ex trying to set him up is really beside the point. You are not happy with him. You will find someone else and be much happier. After 4 months you should still be in the "honeymoon" phase of your relationship and not unhappy because he spends more time with his friends than you.

Often times our friends see things we dont and perhaps your girlfriend should be introduced face to face with this man. You can tell alot about a person when you are an outsider from the the relationship. She may be right or she may just be sizing him up based on your point of view and she could be off. I cant see your ex boyfriend getting a woman who would care enough to set you up unless she was a flake or she is one of his pals seeking revenge. Seems like a waste of time unless your ex is extrememly jealous!

Don't believe any of it! Men are by nature liars and will say anything to get out of trouble and keep the peace and get their own way.
I am with a lovely man but the amount of lies he has told and sneaky things he has done visiting ex g/fs and women friends behind my back is unbelievable!!!
Consequence: I now believe hardly anything he says in that dept!
And no I haven't brought this on myself by stopping him - I was ok with most of it. It was when he went to see women I didn't know and worse of all didn't know I existed that it had to stop!
Good luck!