Broke up after 2 years and 3 months.

My boyfriend just broke up with me - 3 days ago. After 2 years and 3 months. I'm so in love with him. I just want him back. We live together - it's so hard to stay here and watching him doing everyday stuff and thinking about all the good times and how I can't kiss him or hug him. He says he just needs some time. He doesn't know if we'll get back together. All he keeps saying is maybe. He at first told me he didn't have any feelings for me anymore and that I didn't make him happy, but then the next day he says he still does have feelings for me and today he told me he's still in love with me. Last night he just said we were too young to be in this serious of a relationship, he's 20, I'm 19. That he wants to be free and he wants to just be himself and be single for a while. We were friends for 5 years before we started dating, we met online. I lived in CT, him in NY. We started dating - 6 months long distance while I graduated. Then I moved in with him and we've been dating for ever since. Our relationship has been rocky in some parts, but mostly good. It was out of the blue he broke up with me - just last week he was all happy and telling me how much he loved me and now nothing. I don't know what to do. I'm going crazy. I love him so much. I think if I go home, back to CT for a while, the seperation might do us good. But I eventually have to come back up here, I'm not gunna run away from this. He's worth the fight and I'll wait for him. He already promised me no other girls, but then said he didn't care that I dated other guys, but he didn't look at me when he said it. I'm so confused. Did we move in together too soon? I NEED some advice, pleaseeee .....

Dejosepha, welcome to the forum


You are 19 and he is 20 and you two have been dating for 5 years which means that you started dating when you were 14 and he 15. I think this separation 'thing' is a good thing, my dear. I know perhaps age doesn't matter much at all in relationships and if they're good then they are good full stop, but seen that you both were really, really very young to be tied up in an adult relationship I think this is a good thing to separate and 'be yourselves' for a little while.

I know you won't like my words here, and I am sorry I have to say this, but this is solely my very own opinion.

Oh no, I know you're completely right, it's just hard. He's all I've ever known and I love h im. We're both really mature for our ages - both had to grow up fast when we were kids. I guess I'm just gunna go home for a bit and let things just - I dunno. I'll give him the time, who knows? Maybe he'll end up missing me and want me back home.

That's a good idea Also when you are back home do go and enjoy yourself a little bit to get your head off feeling sad. It sounds impossible when you're sad to force yourself to have fun and you think it won't work anyway because sadness will overshadow any situation you could have fun in, but you should try - and see there is nothing better than a 'rest' away from the problem that nails you down

i broke up with my ex after 3 years, we started dating at 15 and now that i look back at it we really were to young. Its hard but after about awhile you start to see that there is more in life then just your partner. Go out with your friends, take your mind of things. I know its hard believe me, my ex left me for another guy right after we broke up and plus i have to see her at school and put up with her staring at me i wish you strength and all the best.

Im in the exact same position and it sucks big time. I don't understand how they can lose feelings, but still feel for you. My ex is saying the same things as yours. I don't know what to do, but everyone has been telling me to give him a few days with no contact and that if I really love him to give him a break and if he really loves me he will come back. I don't know if it will work, but right now I would try anything to get mine back. So I think maybe if you give him some time, maybe he'll come around and realize that he wants you and still loves you. I wish you the best and hope everything works out...

Hey I'm in a very similar situation. Only difference is the day straight after our breakup he started talking to other females right in front of me as if I didn't exist. It hurts, it really does. He says he doesn't love me anymore and that he stopped loving me last week. I'm 20 years old and he's 22. How can someone just STOP so suddenly? We live together and he pays the rent. I really don't know what to do. He says I could stay there until school ended. When I asked him if we could, in the future, get back together, her simply responded "ask me in a year." I don't know what to do. Any advice?

Things have worked out really good between the two of us. We got back together shortly after I wrote this, but then broke up again. Right now we're not together, but we're really close friends and are working out our relationship issues. He tells me he has feelings for me and randomly kisses and hugs me. We lost our virginitys to one another and still live together. There are plans to get back together in the future. But I'm happy and he's happy. My advice is don't give up, but live your life and put yourself first, your happiness is what matters.