Broke up after a year, no reason. Will he come back?

Okay so me and my boyfriend had been going out for a year and a week or so when he decided he wanted to go on a break. So i gave him his space because he said he needed time alone. so a week goes by and i cried and cried and during that break because it had come out of nowhere. we had a great happy relationship. He said it was nothing I did, that he just needed time alone. And he did cry which he never does when he did this.

A week later, I texted him asking him if I should wait around for him. He told me that he didn't want me to wait for him because he didn't know how long he needed.

That night he calls me so and he says," i need time i dont know why but i just dont love you right now. I tried to convince myself that i do but i dont. I need time to be by myself. And i am a terrible person for doing this to you. you didnt do anything wrong i just need time." And i said this hurts soo much how could you do this to me? everything was great between us (bawling at this point) and all i did was love you.

Hes like i know, i know but everything i said to you was true at the time. i never lied to you. then i told him I lost my best friend and my boyfriend and i feel so alone and he said i lost all that too, i feel so alone too. And I just asked him to promise me we'll see each other again and he promised. and i kept saying i miss you sooo much and he said i miss you too and i do care about you i just dont love you. I told him i didnt want to be with anyone else and he said I dont want to be with anyone else either I just need to be alone.

it went on like that for a while then he told me to say goodnight because he needed to go and i kept saying i dont want to cuz then this will be over. and hes like please say goodnight and i just kept saying no and it sounded like he was starting to cry or get upset and he said im hanging up now im sorry goodnight and he hung up so i texted him saying goodnight please dont forget me. and he texted back saying i never will, goodnight. and that was that.

Our one year anniversary was perfect. He told me he loved me and he couldn't imagine his life without me. Then how could he let me go?
So basically I just want to know if he will miss me. will he come back?
We are both 17 going on 18 and have been going out for a year. We live 45 min away so we predominantly saw each other on weekends. We are both interested in going to the same college. I know I may sound desperate but i miss him so much. He was everything to me. I just don't understand what went wrong.



This past Sunday (2 weeks later) he texted me asking if i was still applying to the college we wanted to go to. I answered him and we made small talk for a little while asking each other how we were and such. I emailed him my college essay and asked if he would read it and tell me what he thought. He agreed and it ended with that.

I haven't received an email back yet.

So, he had no reason to text me, but he did. Is this a good thing? Do you think he is missing me?

I did make the mistake of texting him yesterday...just telling him i was applying soon. No answer there either. I'm doing alright, hanging in there, but I'm still missing him and still trying to make sense of it all. Please help me out.

K2thaI2thaM welcome to the forum

I feel for you, I really do...

It sounds like he is trying to detach himself from you in order to find out if he loves you or not. Sometimes being too close to a matter doesn't let you see it.

This must be a horrible time for you but I don't know anything else to say than that one really cannot know what's going to be. Just hope for the best...

Usually people don't break up for no reason theres always a reason he's clearly been thinking about it! I think talking to him will just make it harder for you! and will keep getting your hopes up Try doing your own thing going out with the girls, even date (im not saying get a new bf) but dating can be fun in groups or one on one! stay busy and keep your mind off of him! he clearly needs time but its unfair to you to wait around for him to decide Get your self a life and have fun! if its ment to be it will happen and if not then you will meet the right one for you! Dont msg him back rigth away or txt sry busy cant talk. Right now he knows that if he msgs u or calls you u'll be there! he needs to realize that your not going to wait around that your better than that! he needs time to figure everything out not you! You know what you want and you should be happy! Your the only person that can make you happy and I strongly suggest reading the secret but i read it when i was going through a rough beak up and it helped and made me look at things in a different perspective

OMG i went through the same thing same excuse & everything, about 3 1/2 months ago!my relationship was 5 years. Girl listen it hurts i know all about it, but you did nothing wrong remind yourself that everyday you wake up, you have to be strong and go on with life, go to school hang out with friends, go out to parties,movies keep active. You know what & who you want, but you can't force someone to be with you if it's not the right time. Remember things happen for a reason....for example for me if my partner never left me i would have never gotten into a profession that is finally right for me. If it's meant to be life will work it out, strong love never really leave's the other person either no matter what they say. Like for me i know who i want & i know who i love, but i can't wait around forever either & you shouldn't either. it will get better just keep your head up...time heals all...& things happen for a reason remember that always.

He did have a reason to text you. It was very specific. He wanted to know if you were still planning on going to that same college. Why did he want to know that? I'm sorry, but it sounds as though this guy was letting go and didn't have a great reason for doing so and perhaps the soft let go gave you the indication that he cares. You tried really hard to tell him you love him and hold on to him. Perhaps that is what kept him from giving you the reason in the first place. Men are like that. Men aren't that cold. Yes, he cried because it's always hard. It hurts now but the pain goes away. The sooner you detach and let go, the more he may sense and that is most likely when he would come back. Unfair world.

same happened to me, and im still going through it a year on. I was with him for 5yrs and living together for 4yrs bought a house and getting married, then in jan 6mths before the wedding he says out of the blue his confused, doesnt know what he wants and left, dragged it out for a few months telling me he loves me, wants me in his life but cant ask me to wait for him etc.....then in july decides the truth he needs to tell me coz its eating away at him so to ease his concience his met someone and living with her straight after moving out. Feel like crap, times not healing but im getting used to it, still cry myself to sleep every night and hurts like hell, done the begging and pleading and blaming myself but the others are all right, if he wanted to come back its gota be because his realised and not because im making him. I gota stop the calls/emails and text as you have hun its not easy and im still living in hope but realise if someone comes along that treats me better im going to grab it, i cant wait around for him because his proven he doesnt love me, care or want me and thats life!! Im nearly 31 now and wasted 6years on that man including this one, dont make the same mistake .....find comfort in talking and having fun with friends and family, youl need them now trust me.. GOOD LUCK X

heyy i no how u feel im going through the same situation at the moment with my ex but all i can say is try and keep in contact with him but dont over do it as it may push him away.. my ex doesnt no what he wants atm and it kills me coz i love him more than anything.. we have only just started talking and we are getting on really well.. i no its hard to be friends with them but its a start and if you both want the same things then it may work out but u have to give him time and space.. this is also good for you as you can concentrate on yourself and what u need.. but what ever happens, happens for a reason i no it might not be what u want to hear but its true.. good luck!! x

Well I put these websites on someone else's topic to. But,I think b/c the both of you are so young and going to college that he feels that he is to young to continue to settle down. The both of you are going to be around diff. people and maybe he wants to leave his options open and doesn't want to be tempted or cheat. So maybe for him it's easier just to breakup now,so he can't hurt you in that way. It seems most men think there is always better out there,even if they are w/ a good person,but I guess he can't help how he feels. Or maybe he's interested in somebody else and doesn't have the guts to tell you,so he says he needs space to soften the blow...

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***And just remember,"ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!". If he's just "saying" that he loves you,but his "actions" are saying "I don't want you or to be around you",then you should follow his actions. Why go through all the maybe's and what if's when you can find another guy who will treat you better and not play games. Save yourself the time and trouble. Who wants to be w/ someone unsure,he's just a waste of time,MOVE ON.***

I know how you feel, i went through the same thing and i know this might be advice that everyone might be giving you but if he really loves you he'll come back. The same thing happened with my boyfriend we broke about 7 times, and we always ended up going back to each other, until i messed up this time. So if he really loves you and cares about you he'll come back but if he doesn't you have to try to move on and keep him as a friend but not more. You have to move on. Good Luck*

Have you given him a chance to miss you? Sometimes it is best to suddenly agree with the breakup and stop calling, texting or emailing him. That gives you back some power and makes him wonder what you are up to that is keeping you so busy. I learned it here. How Can I Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back?

there is a reason relationships end. i'm going through one right now. my ex and i were together for 15 months, we were even engaged and lived together. we both had financial issues and career issues that stressed our relationship. he had to move to a a different state and he became even more detached from me. when i asked him what was going on he avoided it, he avoided contact with me, for no reason!

i got angry and told him lets just be friends, then i changed my mind. then he wanted to be friends and we started sending each other emails & I LOST IT! then i send him an email telling him i don't love him anymore and i don't ever want to get back together with him. i did this because in a way those are the feelings that are deep inside. our relationship had been hurting us both with words and actions. it had turned from loving and open to closed and not intimate. its time to call it quits. it hurts like hell though. i wake up and think about him and go to bed thinking about him.

but i know this is the right thing because i'm going to be leaving the state for a year too and now we don't know where are lives are taking us. plus we don't get along. we wanted the same things out of life though and still had lots in common. at some point, i know its best to let go and let the other person know. there is always the future, who knows what will happen?