Broke up and now confused

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 yrs. We lived together most of the relationship. I have an 8 yr old son he doesn't have any children. (his background) - He's 28 yrs old, lived with his parents before, not independent or responsible. Loved to party and drink (my background) I'm 29 yrs old, been on my own since 18. Very independent, I go out occasionally.

Since he moved in with me he as changed completely he started saving his money stopped drinking and going out. We started drifting apart because I noticed he started pulling away from me. Instead of talking about the issues they just started building up and we both started getting annoyed with each other. He would tell me he wasn't happy anymore and wasn't sure if this was what he really wanted. We really never did family things together actually we hardly even hung out together. To make this story short I asked him to move out on Fri because I felt he was staying their because he felt bad knowing that I couldn't afford the high rent. He told me that he wasn't sure if he loved me, but he did care for me and felt bad that he couldn't give me the family life that I wanted. I didn't see him until yesterday when he was going to pick up his stuff and I was in my car so I just waved I was trying to be strong. I realized I couldn't keep someone that wasn’t sure what they felt for me or wanted. Now we're both confused... I miss him a lot. He realized that he cares for me more than what he really thought he did. We both don't want to end this relationship, but feel that moving out will probably help us. Maybe this is a test to see how much this relationship means to us. My major concern is confusing my kid, he likes my boyfriend. The reason I want to work it out is because he’s a wonderful guy and he’s the one that actually opened up and told me he missed me a lot. (He’s not a very emotional person so for him to speak to me this was way out of his comfort zone) I’m just hoping he won’t change his mind later again.

As anyone ever gone through this? Move out, but still continue the relationship? Do you think it might actually work?

Happy Kay, welcome to the forum

I have never done that so no personal experience here, but know lots of couples that did. For some the time away from each other was beneficial and they returned to living together again but for others it didn't work out that way and they felt that they should move on.

I know this doesn't really comfort you or gives any stable reference but it is what I have seen around me.

Nice to know it worked from some... It's hard to get use to it, but I kind of feel stress free. I hope it does work I think this is our last resort.

Thanks

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you