Broke up but still really confused

I dated a guy for about 7 months. We met and it was crazy fireworks between us. Things just clicked and started moving really fast. A couple months into the relationship he started slowly pulling away from me and pushing me away from him. It was tearing me up inside. After feeling like this for a while I brought it to his attention, and of course he apologized and said he has this problem and this is the exact same thing his x=girlfriend said to him the night they broke up....blah blah blah. To make a long story short, after we had the conversation, things were much better for a couple weeks, but then again he got back into that same pattern of making me feel horrible, making me feel like I was making him miserable, etc. I of course needed to say something again about so one day I sent him an email that had stuff in it that he had written me in the beginning of the relationship and told him how great those things made me feel, etc. and that I really missed the person who wrote me that stuff. Out of nowhere he sends me this email that said he realized from the beginning of our relationship that we were different and our relationship would never be long term. Of course, this threw me completely off guard. I didn't know how to react or respond or what to do. We talked about it and agreed that we did not want to break up so we stayed together for about another month but it was not good, because I was obviously dieing inside because he has been the love of my life. I don't let myself fall for people very hard, and I was honest about this in the beginning of our relationship but he assured me I could trust him, so I did and I fell hard. We broke up a month ago and it was really said, we both cried and lots of things were said and feelings were hurt and feelings we didn't realize existed i think surfaced, etc. He finally told me that he just couldn't let someone in and was not at the stage in his life where he could care about someone that much or have someone care about him. He has some personal issues to work on and just isn't ready and is not where I am. In the last month, I have seen him twice as his birthday was immediately after the break-up and we have talked via email. My heart is still breaking and I am in so much pain. I have never needed someone or felt this way for anybody in my life. There is a part of me that wants to call him or show up on his door step and tell him i just want to try to work on things. We both said different time different place things would have worked and I just feel deep down in my gut that he was the one and I am always going to look back and wonder and never be able to truly move on. I don't know if he looking to date someone or else or what he is doing he said he was going to take a long break from that. I am definitely taking a break from that for a while myself. Should i wait a little longer and give myself more time, is it even worth calling him and tell him how much I miss him and how much I want to try to work things out? I don't want to make a fool out of myself but at the same time I know what I feel. I am in my mid-late twenties so I have had boyfriends, dated, etc. and never really cared when those relationships ended. This one has literally brought me to my knees and I don't know what to do.....any advice?

purple99dogs, I've read this, I'm sorry to advise you to leave it - try to get over it. Maybe you think that 'he was the one' - but honestly speaking out of your account above I really don't think so. Of course, I fully agree that only you can tell.

Try to pick up your life without him again...