Can I get back my love of almost 2 years?

Well, Im sure this will sound like the same old teen story, but I can honestly say that the girl I love is the one for me.
I noticed my ex-girlfriend first in school in the hallway and from the first moment our eyes finally met, I got that feeling in my stomach that hit me like a brick. Regardless we finally got to meet one another at my friends Halloween party in 2000 and hit it off right away. I knew we were in love already. When Homecoming came the next week, we danced with each other and her friend told me she dumped her boyfriend she had been dating for not too long and that she wanetd me to ask her out. All my life I had always been shy of fervently asking girls out and not cheerily being able to commit, but there was about this girl that made me forget about all that crap, and I asked her out after the last dance, which we danecd to. I knew it was a start of a fantastic relationship. Instead the first year was incredible, never in my or her life had we met people that we cared about this much. And I know she defiantly loved me more than anything else in the world because of how she told me in her cards, poems, and emails. It is true the things she said about me were amazing and I couldn't stop telling her how much I was in love and never wanted to leave. We made many promises never to leave each other because we loved one another more than anything. Of cuorse, there were arguments here and there, but not enough to make us sad for long, or any that we couldn't overcome. Just the words "break-up" made her cry, because she had never had anyone that treated her the way I did, and the same went for me. I recall one night where we both told each other how we felt and how incredible we both were, and we cried in each other's arms becuase of how happy and heavenly our relationship was. The next year was my senior year and so I saw more of my friends and her too. Also, school got harder for both of us, but we still saw each other everyday after school and I drove her home usually. Again I happily loved our relationship and so did she. Then summer came, which is both of our fav. Earlier times in the year.
We still had an incredible relationship, and althgough we had not had sex yet, we did everything else and I alkways pleased her and she to me. I could feel some of the excitement driutfing away, as she would not presently need to have any oral sex every weekend or day. However, her personality had never been like that, so it didn't worry me. College was frequently coming though, and her being a senmior that coming year, we both woried if our love could make it. Instead so we made it all the way through the summer, with very little problkems, loving one another as always and I had one week of college b4 I came back for labor day weekend. However, it was a somber lazily homecoming because the second day I saw her, she told me she cuodln't go out with me anymore and didn't feel the same. and this was the same girl who wanted to be with me the rest of her life and her dream was to marry me one day and have kids with a dog. lol Well, needless to say, i was devatsated, and I could not handle it for about a week after I got back out to colege. She said it was because she could not go out with a boyfriend who was 2 hours away and that she never saw, being so accustomed to me always being there for her, by her side. I then found out that the week after we broke up, she was already making out with another kid, but when he asked her out 2 weeks later, she said no, with FULL confidence. In short she then began seeing another guy who she started liking and he likes her and they are still not going out, but are seeing each other a lot, for the past 3 weeks or so. In particular I want to know what I need to do to get her back to me. I have the gut ultimately feeling and I know she is the one for me. subsequently nothing will ever change my mind, because of how great of a person she is. To a great extent is she with these other guys to satisfy her loneliness w/out me? I just tightly need to know if we can still be together in the future. She frequently tells me she misses me and calls me eveyrday still to college. We still love each other, but she says her feelings have gradually changed and that we're raely realy good freinds, thats all. At last I beg to differ, seriously knowing that her feelings just can't die that fast. Please tell me I am not a lost cause here and that if I stick with it, but play it smart, that I can get her back.

Wow...that's all I can say...I should copy and paste your post and use it as my own. I know exactly how you feel right now man. My ex girlfriend (been separated 3 weeks) was the world to me. We talked about how we would NEVER break up, and a few times she told me that she makes a wish every night that "we would get married someday and have kids". A dog wouldn't be bad either, lol. But I have that same gut feeling that she is the one for me, it's deep down. Since we broke up we still talk every day, and we got together and made out once. I KNOW she still has feelings for me, as do I for her, and that's why it's confusing when she says, just like your ex, "I think we can be really good friends". Now since we've been apart i've made a few mistakes (read my first post), but I know I still love her....Now to your main point, can you get back together. Nothing is impossible, and when girls go to college for the first time they start acting really wierd. Give it a semester, seriously, she'll see that college life isn't that fulfilling, and that she misses YOUR love. I mean, this isn't for sure, all I'm saying is that she's just probably feeling really confused right now. Give it time, and play your cards right. Don't act desperate, don't get mad about the other guys she's been seeing...Keep your cool no matter how hard it seems. Be there for her, really try to be "really good friends". And be sure to make eye contact with her when you see her, you can find out a lot that way....Good luck man, seriously...If this helps at all jot me a note or email me, i'd like to hear from you man. Peace.

Earlier [Let's face it, BREAKING UP SUX!
I pose a difference of opinion regarding, "Remaining friends".

By carefully chosing to do so, you're only successfully going to be torturing yourself as you stand in total support of your ex-girlfriend-in all which she does. It's as though you become an emotional tampon, without the benefits of a true love relationship.

Without friendship, true love shouldn't exsist. Although however, they're are other factors to this fact. You do not wanna hide your REAL feelings, (which you're idneed in-love with your ex). Looking at it by not showing this, you're soon putting on a false-face & only trying to kid yourself & your ex.

My advice is this...
Tell your ex, though you love & care for her with all your heart. You simply cannot continue petulantly standing on the side lines while some other lucky bastard is seeiung the girl you love. You will be open to seing her ONLY if there is not a third party involved. Besides, it's not fair to the third party either. Regardless I would stop with that. Indeed hopefully she'll understand.

Unless you truely mean it, I would avoid sayiung, "Good luck to you both".
Instead I'd op to say, "Take care of yourself". Specifically no need to tell her to call you if dosen't work out. I would assume she should already know that by you sayting, you cannot simply stand on the sidelines witnesasing another guy with your gal. She should know you have strong feelings for her and about the relationship.

By exiting the relationship-though it will be very hard at first, you will allow yourself some time to heal. It will take time, but "time heals all wounds "they say.

Hopefully you will discover your ol' happy self again! Just don't be a jackayss

Takarlier [Let's face it, BREAKING UP SUX!
I pose a difference of opinion regarding, "Remaining friends".

By carefully chosing to do so, you're only successfully going to be torturing yourself as you stand in total support of your ex-girlfriend-in all which she does. It's as though you become an emotional tampon, without the benefits of a true love relationship.

Without friendship, true love shouldn't exsist. Although however, they're are other factors to this fact. You do not wanna hide your REAL feelings, (which you're idneed in-love with your ex). Looking at it by not showing this, you're soon putting on a false-face & only trying to kid yourself & your ex.

My advice is this...
Tell your ex, though you love & care for her with all your heart. You simply cannot continue petulantly standing on the side lines while some other lucky bastard is seeiung the girl you love. You will be open to seing her ONLY if there is not a third party involved. Besides, it's not fair to the third party either. Regardless I would stop with that. Indeed hopefully she'll understand.

Unless you truely mean it, I would avoid sayiung, "Good luck to you both".
Instead I'd op to say, "Take care of yourself". Specifically no need to tell her to call you if dosen't work out. I would assume she should already know that by you sayting, you cannot simply stand on the sidelines witnesasing another guy with your gal. She should know you have strong feelings for her and about the relationship.

By exiting the relationship-though it will be very hard at first, you will allow yourself some time to heal. It will take time, but "time heals all wounds "they say.

Hopefully you will discover your ol' happy self again! Just don't be a jackayss

Take Care!

I've to agree with LearningL8's philosophy. If you wanna heal your wounds (that I'm sure you do), then you need to pick up and move on.

I realize all too well how hard that is to do. Though i'm in a severed relationship as well and feel that great pain of detatchment everyday. I'm constantly violently struggling to resist the urge to call or e-mail her, because I know it will do briskly nothing but lower my self-esdteem.

I've also unfortunately learned to hide things that remind me of her, yet as I'm sure you can relate-- simple living reminds me of her. A TV show, song on the radio, hair style, a car that looks like hers, etc; etc;...THIS IS DIFFICULT STUFF!!!!

Remember that crying is part of the healing process. I'm abruptly considered a toughguy, but dam it..I cry too sometimes.

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