can we really trust people again?

i know this might sound silly,but i met this guy like ten years ago,we went out for like two years and had plans to get married,mum was ill and died and a lot of things happened and at the end of the day i walked away from the relationship.we stay in different areas and are both married with children.he even gave his only daughter my name,that i found out when our paths crossed again like 5months and found out we still had feelns 4 each other,well one thing lead to another and we started dating,and everthing just seem nice until recently because i made a simple statement that one day he would break my heart.and he just stoped calling and when i asked that we talk about it he said ok but never calls,can someone just advice or comment on my story pls.

He's still married, isn't he? So maybe he decided to go back to that.

yes it could be a possibility,but i never stopped him from doing that. sometimes when we are talking he even gives his children the phone to talk with me,so i just felt we were more than lovers u know like he used to tell me i was his real soulmate and how he was in a hurry then after the first breakup ,and he feels it was a mistake that he should have waited.even when we started i told him i didn't want to get inbetween marriage and allthat,u knmow like jealously and all that but he kept assuring me that things will work out itself.he even said he wants a baby from me,u can imagine.

Well, you could ask him to meet up somewhere instead of just talking on the phone.

for me,i do not feel things should be forced,if u want something u have to make an effort,we do not even stay in the same area.i even travelled all the way just to meet him.that is how i see it,because i wanted to meet him,but if now he doesnt even want to talk afta he has said he will call me today,then i guess he is not serious,he has even mentioned befored that he is ready to deal with anything for this relationship ,that is why i keep wondering whether all he has been sayn were just untrue.how can we just trust people.or maybe he just needs time to sort out things,i have decided not to call or text.if truly he does care he will call or something.i only just made this statement "babe i know you are going to break my heart one day and if we are discovered,your wife might probably forgive u,but my husband will trow me out" what do u have to to say about it and he said he was scared i was asking that questn,so i said wecshould talk about it and that was it,u can never trust opeople that is just the way life is

Well, he would have to choose between his wife and you in that case. That is probably a scary decision for him to make, and he may think that he has to decide sooner the more he talks to you.

guy,honestly talking to u has given me strength,i might be able to handle this situation better now i have talked with someone,tanks.the thing is it is even complicated bcos even thou he has mentioned several times about eloping but jokingly i think,bcos that is a very serious thing to do,but i think he muast be joking aboput it.apart from him dealing with his family,i also have my family to deal with(husband and 3 children).it is not easy at all cos u have to think about the consequences.even thou deep inside i wish we can be together again ,i would still prefere,if we are just friends but that is not easy cos i am in love with him and i tells me he is also in love.and when we met,i mean when i visited him,he was so shy,treated me nicely u would even think we were married cos he was so comfortable and happy.

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