cheaters....

why do people cheat?

"the saying once a cheater always a chater" --is this true?

opinions...facts...

Vlee, no - that is not true. Not for everybody though. People can better their lives. Especially after they've seen how much pain it brings to others and a huge mess for themselves. Some learn lessons... others aren't capable of that.

i agree people can learn lessons and some people just aren't capable of learning lessons...and issue of selfishness and self worth perhaps if he or she can't learn a lesson...yes?...have you ever cheated before.

I have not been cheated on. Have you? I think someone having been cheated on would have stronger viewpoints than others?

i have been cheated on...but the guy who cheated on me was very unstable mentally...i dont think it was because of anything i did

Vlee, cheating is NEVER because of something the partner did. Cheating is wrong under all circumstances. When a relationship doesn't work anymore there are ways to end it and then one is free to do what he/she wants - but before that - no matter what anyone does, the obligation is to be together "for better and for worse" - or split.

i completely agree...i just dont understand why so many people this day in age think that it is ok to cheat, ya know?

i don't subscribe to the fact that it's o.k to cheat. what many people don't know about this is that it's just temporary pleasure(and it's get into their heads) but it's damage is eternal and also destructive.

It's the latest fad among teenagers and i think it's becos they've got twisted minds. It's a mind and peer group kinda thing, you know!

yeah very true...im 22 and i am very against it but see it happening all of the time and i think it is just swarming among my generation and the generation on its way up.

its so sad...

honestly. Some people are just not satisfied with one person. They need more and its totally selfish in my opinion.

MichelleB, I agree.

I have to say I have been a cheater and I was once cheated on and neither is good. When I was doing the cheating I have to say that it was purely selfish. If I wasn't getting what I wanted from the one I was with then I'd creep with another that would give it to me. I was just determined to get what I wanted whether it be emotional or physical. When I got cheated on I have to say I was upset because I was really trying to please this person but at the same time I wasn't too upset because while he was out cheating I was too. He couldn't possibly be keeping me satisfied while he was out doing other things hence me finding someone else to satisfy me. Now I'm married and I believe cheating is out of the picture. There's no excuse for it. Communication and devotion has to solve our problems.

Cheaters can change if it's what they really want to do.

No this is not true. I believe that people cheat because they are not getting what they need at home. For instance, you can love someone and not be in love with him/her. And that makes a big difference. Being in love and how it makes you feel is awesome. And if you are not getting that at home then you will look for that elsewhere.

Sorry if the "not getting at home what you need" thing is an issue one should get a divorce and then be free to "get as much as one wants".

within a marriage or a solid relationship cheating is a sin. There is just no way around that.