Confused by my fiancee'

Hello,
I have been in a relationship with my finacee' for 28 months now. He is very selfish and only into himself. Yesterday we got into an argument over him being selfish. I wanted him to attend a violin concert for my grand daughter. After the argument, (he said he would rather relax and not attend her concert) he texted me "Do not contact me any more." I was stunned, hurt, and very confused. I called him and told him that I needed for him to allow me to come and get my things and say goodbye. When I got there he told me that he didn't want to breakup he didn't mean what he said that he was just mad. I have a history of unhealthy relationships. I cleared out my things and gave him back the remote to his garage. He called this morning to tell me that I should think about not breaking up with him. I think it is because he needs me to take his dog to the vet om Wednesday. My boy friend lives 30 miles away. He is a mamas boy he will ask me to drive 30 miles one way to let his dogs out to go potty. He doesn't want to stress mama who lives 8 miles away. Looking back I have done 90% of the driving. He had nothing to get from my house because he is never at my house. I am very confused. I am not sure what love is any more. I took all of the blame last night for everything that is wrong in our relationship. With a history of being abused that is what I am conditioned to do. I have a therapy appointment for Janurary 2nd. Thanks for listening.

Get a sheet of a paper and write what is bothering you about this current relationship. Then go back to each item on the list and ask yourself if something like this has happened before, either in the current relationship or your previous ones. The more matches you get, the more sure your decision you should be. You could start with this story.

As for what love is, the details are different for everyone. I would say that it's something that you feel happy about.

Thanks, I will do what you have suggested.

I am taking it slow today. This in an awesome group.

I am feeling much better and bouncing back to myself.

I know that I have to work on being more assertive

and that it is okay to say "No".

He has called and texted to say sorry, I am taking

time out.

Again thank you so much for your care and your time.

Have a wonderful day.

Big Christmas Hugs, Pink Poodle

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