Does my ex girlfriend still think about me

Ok my ex girlfriend and I been together for three years she was my high school sweet heart we went to college together but our sophmore year in college she broke up with me because she said she couldn't take it anymore we would always urgue she caught me talkin on the phone with girls three times so we broke up and she said she didn't want a boyfriend nomore so I cried and tried everything to get her back but she just kept sayin she don't want a boyfriend nomore but like 2 weeks later she had another boyfriend I was crushed I realized that I was wrong for everything I did and I think I have changed but its to late I have been single for 8 months now I haven't heard from her since I guess she is living happily ever after I just want to know how can she find another boyfriend that quick when we been together for three years? Do you think she thinks about me? Pleas give me some advice.

Well I don't know her but usually when people get over someone quick, they've been thinking about it for a long time. You're in college so there should be plenty of opportunities. It's probably time you should move on too. 8 months is a good length to get over someone. I think if you're completely over her, it's okay to contact her and see if you could still be friends if that is something you might want. Not everyone wants that.

Yeah I guess your right but me calling her is not a option I wanna no why is it so hard to find somebody else?

I think this is true for a lot of us but we generally go back to our exes because we are comfortable and there's familiarity. When we have a new relationship, we at first are scared because we don't know the other person and it takes a lot of time to get to really know someone. I think it's a weird analogy but it's like breaking in a new pair of shoes. I know a lot of people who have gone back to their exes but they always just fight nonstop and personally I only seem them being together because they are familiar with one another.

Why do you think it's so hard to find somebody? Are you shy? Do you not meet new people? Usually in school, it's not so hard because a lot of people are in the same position you are in and it's easy to get into a conversation because of similar interests like classes and groups.

Yeah I am kind of shy I hate it cause I think men should never be shy but I think the statement you said about that there are people that's like me here in school is false because all I see are couples and that's what makes me upset and miss my ex. Im serious because tho it has been 8 months it seems like every since she left I have just been having nothing but bad luck I just don't want to be stuck like this forever lonely and thinking what if I did something different that all this could have been avoided. have you been in or know someone who's been in the same situation.

I've been in a similar situation, I was with a guy only for a year, and I would catch him like that, one the phone with a girl, and doing things I personally wouldn't have done out of respect for him... After so long of going through these things, I was DONE & I too got another boyfriend I am happy with. And yes, I do still think of my ex, and how he's doing, and if he's okay, but as far as going back to the past like that... Definately not.

But of course, every girl is different.

yeah i understand what you are saying but its just hard to get her off my mine mainly because i cant have her anymore thats tough i guess guys take it harder than girls

Getting over your shyness is a tough thing. I remembered I was really shy in high school and throughout part of my college life and I'm not sure what happened, but I'm not like that after college. I think it's all about having confidence in yourself and knowing what you want. Keeping a goal in mind helps. There's this book that's really good called "Why Your Life Sucks" by Alan Cohen. Go look for it in the bookstore and it might help you.

Yeah thanks I think I will go check that book out I think that's what it is im not very confidence in myself

Maybe at some point you guys just grew apart. I'm sorry that she hurt your feelings in that way and moved on so fast but it seems she wasn't communicating with you very well. I can say however that usually if a woman's feelings change about you it usually shows in some way and I think you may have missed the signs because of your feelings for her you didn't want to see them.

You probably do cross her mind from time to time but if you haven't heard from her at all I have to say you need to move on. I know it's hard but you have to. You're probably better off because she may have been cheating. So sorry.
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What's the purpose of fallin in love if that dumb stuff is goin to happen though I wasn't faithful at all I think im a changed person now

Ok so if you weren't faithful how do you feel that you were in love? Did she do something to hurt you to make you cheat?

Maybe she knew you weren't faithful and that's why she has walked away...

No she was very faithful she truely loved me but I was young and dumb an I took it for granted I and now look im all alone

In that case I have to say I'm sorry for your loss but it appears you brought this on yourself. The only thing now is to learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them.

But that means I have to start all over. But I get wat u sayin though that's real

no 2 weeks impossible, she should have been in an eternal triangle. girls can cheat like men. if they cheat, they don't think, but if they find it your fault rather than theirs,then they think about you. just because she is gone, does not mean you should not talk to her. Be her friend. Call her up and behave friendly with her, and see if she can forget her current boyfriend, all without their knowledge. Next time, show her how you care for her.

its all one and the same. you are a victim. its very difficult to reunite after break ups. you should not love anyone serioulsy, you may not succeed. Love god. if you think your spouse is cheating, try to be cool. don't be so much emotionally caught up, you also cheat by having 2 or 3 girl friends, at least you will feel free. take advise of psyhologist. afterall who knows??, you can't correct a girl, gone means gone. i think woman are influenced by the society.

It surely takes time for a real woman to leave her man. Remember she did not leave you the first time she caught you on the phone with other girls and she must have started considering so the second and third time she caught you. And also remember that guys wil not stop asking a girl out simply cause she is in another relationship and probably this guy started asking her out whilst u were still dating and when she realised u were cheating on her, there were a ready pair of arms to take her in. Am sorry but i think you missed the chance to be with your love. Just move on and learn from your mistake - DONT CHEAT.

she's probably thinking about the bad side o f you

And here i thot i was the only guy this happened too.. Wow guess we both really messed up, Me and you are in the exact situation, only now i hook with other girls and see new people, however, i still always think of her. I haven't really been able to care for anyone the way i've cared for her. its been almost 2 years since we parted ways and i can't call her(literally even if i wanted to, she changed her number HAha) . I wanna know how shes doing and if she thinks of me (kinda like that song by Ne-Yo tittled "do you ever". I bet that if you called her now and tired to get to know her again She would most likely be a very different person and not the one you feel in love with.. At least that's my theory. People change over time and most even learn from there mistakes. I'm sure your ex- is a very special girl, i know mine was she put up with a-alot. All i can say is maybe next time guys like us should try to be good to girls... Some-day she'll regret not giving me another chance, i truly believe that i'm the best guy shes ever gonna get(but thats just cause im cocky and i say it to my self to make me feel better haha). Frank Sinatra once said that "The best revenge is massive success". They'll regret passing me. And trust me just be yourself, and you'll find someone some day.. Don't be in a rush to find anyone... Your young, in college like my-self... They say every thing happens for a reason... Who knows, but i can say that one day you'll be happy if you just stay positive... This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it

yo hommie u got to get over her whats the point of trying to be with someone that doesnt love u anymore. foorget her move on and go be with someone else things couldnt have been that good with her if shes with someone else bulid some type of hate 4 her and dont try to be her friend it never works that shit is stupid jt forgetttt

Every girls are the same type, that was her excuse nothing else. She just wanted to break up your relation. They always thinking about themselves. She was continuing the other relationship with other guy before your break up. Don't worry forget her, u'll be fine. throw ur past in the dust bean. To yield the truth is humanism, u yield the truth. But she cheated u.... bye take care...

Wow man thanks for the feed back. its nice to know their are people whos in the same situations as me. I really appreciate that from you. Your right we will or i will find somebody and be happy wit. Its great to know that your out meeting new people and not staying to your self like me. Im now trying to get my grades back up in school cause i fell off after my brake up. I had to basically start over but i taking full advantage of the situation. I did speak to my ex but she has changed. she is very mean and rude and stuck up. you were right people do change but i wish she miss me as much as i miss her.

take it from me buddy, i dated this one girl a long time ago. and i thought it was going to be perfect. but we broke up. and its been over a year and i dont know why i cant get over her that easily.i was in the same position as you, the exact same! we want answers but know we wont get them. trust me, start finding another girl. once you do, your ex will be out of your mind. you cant keep asking yourself "what if". because time will pass you by and miss oppertunities. maybe this quote will help "why let someone be a priority in your life, when your just an option in theirs"

girls can move like the wind... they are like monkeys, they wont let go of one tree branch untill they get hold of the other branch.

If she is enjoying life good for her. You should try to enjoy your life a little more. Is she thinking of you? probally not. If she was she would contact you in someway. She probally thinks of you when she does something that you guys use to do , although that memory would only last a second or two before she smiles and moves on to what she was doing. Give her peace and wish her all the luck in the world..

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girls can move like the wind... they are like monkeys, they wont let go of one tree branch untill they get hold of the other branch.

Damn. If that isn't the most hilarious and insightful description of how things can be...

i thought it was only me too that this thing hapend to aswell, its been over a year andd i still cant get her off of my mind. just remember you aint the only one, my story is near as makes no difference the same as yours. no matter how many forums i read though nothing helps, only thing i have realised is time is the best healer and also not talkin to her helped me too. also going out with mates alot and having a few drinks if u get me, its up to you weather you can move on properly, the only thing that would make you proper move on is if you got a new girlfriend but i don't kniow if you are like me but i don't want that because i am affraid of all of this happening again, its harsh as

see, i dont think the break up is the thing that is making us hard to let go. i bet that 1 thing we all have in common is that the girl broke up with us right? i think (and this is just my opinion) is that we wanna know why were really through and if we could work it out. but since theyre just gone, we keep thinking "what if this" and "what if that" we dont really want the girl again, we want the answers to our questions. if we got em, then we would be able to let go. remember, theres a difference between love and obsession as well.

I am not understanding though why has it been 3 years since my brake up and all i i want to do is be depressed. i honestly dont think its obsession. I see that she has moved on, and thats what makes me hurt even more. the past 3 years i been working on myself and getting in tune with my sensitive side. while doing these things i notice couples and how happy the are and that hurts my heart because i used to have that, but its all gone she is gone. I just ask myself at 21 years old. 10 years from now will i still feel this way if so why am i wasting my time

well its kinda hard to give someone advice on these things because we dont really know the whole story and sides to all this. only thing i can tell you is, you have to move on. all the advice we give cant help. you yourself have to accept it. you have to accept that things happen. what you have/had with your ex are moments thatll hold a place in your heart. but im sure your ex wouldnt want to see you depressed and still in love with her like that. every end has a new beginning. you just have to make a new beginning. it wont be easy. but if you want true love again, you have to look for it, its never handed to you. your still young. dont give up yet. meet a girl. dont marry her or anything, just meet 1. from there, youll know what to do. it takes time bud. dont give up yet. if you and your ex dont talk, then accept it and move on, if you guys do and shes changed for the worse,that should motivate you to look. life isnt determined by what gets thrown at you, but by how yo handle it. i hope your reading this, because although i dont know you, im speaking from the heart here.

Yes shadowbal thank you for your answer. I know your probably thinking wow its been three years and you still haven't got over ur ex. I know I been trying and I truely appreciate you speaking from the heart. Its just at this age and with that breakup happening made me feel confused about my life. People tell me I look great on the outside, but only if they new how empty I felt in the inside. Thanks again shadowbal

GREETINGS FRIEND!
WELL I SEE YOU HAVE A PROBLEM SIMILAR TO WHAT IVE HAD, BUT LET'S NOT CALL IT A PROBLEM, IT'S JUST SOMETHING EVERYONE GOES THROUGH SO IT'S NATURAL, THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN CHANGE THIS, IS TO LOOK FOR ANOTHER GIRL AND PAY ATTENTION TO WHOM MIGHT REPLACE THE ONE YOU HAD, TRUST ME MEN ARE DIFF FROM GIRLS, A MAN CAN EASILY REPLACE A FEMALE BUT A FEMALE CANNOT REPLACE A MAN, WHO LOVED ONE ANOTHER. ALL U NEED TO DO IS FIND ANOTHER GIRL MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN UR PREVIOUS ONE AND LOOK INTO HER EYES AND HEART AND BOOOOOOOOOM THATS WHERE U FORGET ABOUT UR EX AND START FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE NEW GIRL.

MY EX THINK'S ABOUT ME EVERYDAY BECAUSE SHE WOULD THROW A COMMENT ON MY FACEBOOK DAILY, ASKING HOW AM I DOING. BUT FOR ME ITS THE OPPOSITE, I DONT CARE ABOUT HER REALLY BECAUSE NOW I MOVED ON AND HAVE SOMEONE WHO APPRECIATES THE THINGS I DO FOR HER.

ONCE YOU LOSE IT SOMEONE ELSE WILL FIND IT, AND WHEN SOMEONE ELSE FIND'S IT, YOU CAN NEVER GET IT BACK WITHOUT PAYING A PRICE, BUT PAYING THE PRICE ISN'T WORTH TAKING IT BACK!


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