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This is a very long story, so please bare with me
My ex and I broke up before I moved. We was going to pick things back up when she moved an hour away to go to college, but she ended up talking to a past love interest, and after seeing him she decided we weren't meant for each other, and we should try and find other people. She told me she was very lonely and she wanted someone nearby, and since I'm to far away and the job I have requires me to work 10 hours a day, 7 days a week she sees no point in trying to make it work since she wants someone nearby. She also suggested we should date for a season, and if it doesn't workout then maybe we can get back together, and that'll probably be when she moves to go to college in a few months since she'll most likely move in with me, or nearby.
This guy lives an hour away from her, but she won't be able to see him since she'll be working full time and going to school full time I believe she's setting herself up for heartbreak. I mean she doesn't know him real well, and she's moving extremely fast. It really looks like it won't last long, and she'll be even more hurt than before I tried to talk to her about her decision, but she kept telling me different reasons on why we can't workout, and she admitted that she doesn't even know why we broke up in the first place. My ex makes the effort to try and make me jealous, it's quite obvious. Every time she talks to me, she talks about the other guy and how he tells her she's so beautiful, and wants to show her off to his friends. Myspace allows it's users to update their current status, and mood, and every time I update my status and mood she'll do it too, and she'll always mention something about the guy.
I called her twice, but she didn't pick up, she then sent me a text saying she was talking to the other guy, and I'm like why would you even say that? Why don't you just say you're on the phone? When I accused her of using the guy to make me jealous, she got angry with me, and told me she wasn't sweatin him like that, and that's something lil kids do, and throughout our relationship I've noticed whenever I accused her of something, and she gets mad for it it's normally because I'm right, and my mom used to tell me as a kid if I got mad over a name someone called me, it's just showing them that they're right because you wouldn't get mad over something that's not true, and I believe that wholeheartedly.
My ex texted me New Years Eve at around 11 going on 12 at night, to say hi. I asked if she was ok since I saw on her myspace she said she wished she had a book with all the answers, and she was confused. She said she'll be ok and she can handle it, and if she can't she won't die from it, so I asked if she wanted to talk and she said no she was just textin me, and I told her I was glad she thought about me enough to text me, and I'm sorry to hear she's down, and she said thanks. I then asked her if she can talk to me sometime next week, and she never said anything back. I asked if it was ok with her, but I never received a text I had a dream that night she was angry for not talking to her and spending time with her, and when I got up the next morning I realized she took me off of her friend's list.
I sent her a message explaining my actions, and I told her if she wanted to keep me off of her friend's list that's fine, and she has ways to contact me if she needed too, but before I sent that message I texted her asking to talk to her, and she called me an hour later telling me if I still wanted to talk, and I told her I sent her a message and she can read it and she said she will, and she said she want to ask me something but can't because there too many people in the car so she'll text me, and I said ok. She sent me a text asking me what could be wrong if she's on her period even though she already had it. I asked a series of questions, and I eventually asked her when was the last time she had sex, and she said the day before yesterday, and I asked if she used protection, and she said she didn't want to go into detail with me, and she changed the subject, but I told her I needed to know in order to help her, and after a while she texted me saying the guy wore something, but he took it off. I honestly believe she didn't want to tell me that she had unprotected sex, I told her it was nothing serious, and she could be going through stress, and she said ok and thanks. I told her if she's going to have sex to make sure the guy wears a condom, and if she's going to have sex without protection to at least make sure the guy is clean, but she didn't reply back to the text and to be honest she really don't know that guy real well, she's only spent like 3-4 days with him. They started talking on myspace about a year ago, and when I came into the picture she stopped talking to him, and she said it was mainly because he wouldn't call or text her anymore, and when he finally did she was already with me. Throughout the relationship she would get angry because he would text her saying he loved her and he missed her, and she used to hate it, and when we broke up she sent him a message asking if he still felt that way and he said yeah, she told him she liked him and wanted to be friends for now, but possibly more in the future, and when I heard about it I told her she can't go from one dude to the next, I asked her if she liked him she said no, and I asked her if she wanted to be with him and she said no, but she got angry at me for asking her but the thing is that she would say she like him one day and don't the next I told her she needed to take some time off to evaluate her feelings but that obviously didn't happen, and that same day he came to visit they spent time together and they kissed, she told me I was a better kisser though.
She called me late that night on the way back to her house (she spent all day hanging out with that guy), and she was just goin on and on about this dude and how he thinks she's beautiful, and wants to show her off, and she asked me if I don't mind talking about him, and I asked her why would I mind, but she didn't answer my question and kept talking about the guy and his family and friends. She told me they were goin to a basketball game the next day and what not. She then started talking about her family. The call dropped and I called her back she told me that since she was in the country she gets bad reception and she will have to call me later, and I said ok, and we hung up. I think this girl is really trying to make me jealous.
Like a week after we broke up she started talking this guy after spending nearly a year not talking to him, I asked her when I was bein a wussy if she wanted me to fight for her, and she said that's my decision, and I'm thinking why have a guy you don't love and want to be with fight for you when you know you don't want him. I told her I gave up on trying to make things work between us, and I was gonna focus on my life, and me, but she never said anything to me. All I know is she goes out of her way to make it seem like she's really happy, and she has found someone else, and I personally wouldn't go through the effort if I don't want my ex back, and don't love her.
She would text me if I haven't texted her in a couple of days, like when she texted me on New Years Eve we haven't spoken in 3 days. I found out that they've decided to be an official couple, and now she is calling herself Mrs.___, and saying she is in love with him. I believe she is showing classic signs of being in a rebound relationship, all of the love she has for me, she's expressing it to the other guy, and whats funny is that me and this new guy both have the same name, so she can easily mistake her feelings. I've decided to not to talk to her since she needs to miss me in order for her to realize who she really loves. I can tell she's really confused, and she already realizing I'm the person she's really loves.
She texted me out of nowhere the other night, and I believe she is really starting to miss me, so I'm gonna keep my distance from her, and let her realize her true feelings. My ex is also having problems at home that are really stressing her, and I think hanging out with this new guy is taking her mind off of it, but I know it's not healthy since she's an emotional wreck. She told me she loved me, doesn't want to let me go and then that same day started hanging out with this new guy. When I asked her if she saw us being together as a married couple she said no, and she sees me as her friend only, she has told me that before when we first decided to break up, and she told me she was just saying that to protect herself, and she didn't mean it. She also told me about a day before she saw this dude and kissed him that she's loves me and wants to be with me and if she says anything contrary to that then she's being weak and selfish. I can tell she's been weak and selfish, she really isn't acting like herself, she has changed completely, and she's seriously moving real fast with this dude. They've only hang out with each other for a few days and she's already saying she loves him, and is claiming his last name.
We haven't talked in about a day, and she called me trying to make it seem like she was just calling to see whats goin on, so I told her we needed some space, because I'm trying to focus on me, and I couldn't do that if she's texting me or calling me, I told her I have some things goin in my life and I want to focus on that, and she cut me off to ask what was happening so I told her my job for one, and she got upset and was like what does your job have to do with not talking to me, so I told her to let me finish, and I contnued with my conversation. After I was done she told me after hearing what I just said she didn't want to tell me the real reason for calling me and she called me because she felt empty, and I asked her how she felt about me and she said she didn't know, then I asked if she was sure and she said she had love for me but wasn't in love with me. I don't believe that, because for one she got upset with me when I told her I wanted some space, and if she didn't love me why would she get upset, and two the first time I asked her how she felt she said she didn't know and if she really didn't care about me like that she would of just came right out and said it, but I think she only told me that to spite me, and even though she's in a relationship she still feels empty, and I told her she never took the time to have a relationship with herself and she said she did, but I don't believe it since she's an emotional wreck. She wanted to hang up so I just reminded her about the whole giving each other distance thing and she got upset with me and cut me off saying yeah yeah I know, and she offered to give me a call in a few weeks. I think if she didn't love me she would of just said she'll contact me whenever. Is my ex still in love with me, but won't admit it? Can I still get her back? I think giving her some space will allow her to realize her true feeling
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