Dumped by text message, by fiance of 5years!!!!

hey everyone on saturday my fiance of 5years dumped me by text.
hes at uni and was acting very odd lately, saying he was busy working (as hes in his final year) so i trusted him like an idiot.
He went to the cinema with his spanish female friend from his halls, and when i kicked up a fuss he said i was pathetic.
I voiced myself to her on facebook and said i wasnt comfortable with her going to the cinema alone with my fiance, and instead of backing off got him to drive to nottingham to pick her friend up from the airport. after that she invited him out with her and the girls, then the day after he went to cambrige with them.
he told me late january how much he loved me, and that i was his angel, showed me furtniture that we'd have in our house when he finishes uni in 2months and other plans. then all of a sudden he acts odd. sends 1text per day, when hes 200miles away. says hes working hard all the time, then saturday i talk to him on the phone and he says he'll phone me at 10 and i say ok, and we both say love you, love you, bye bye, love you, love you (our little goodbye thing on the phone) and then we put the phone down, i go to my room, do some hoovering, come back down see my phone has a text and it says "christina ive got to be honest with you i dont think i love you, and more so ive cheated on you and i dont think its fair. im going to turn my phone off now, give you time to think.talk to you soon."
and that was it, 5years gone.
i feel so hurt and alone, and scared of being single again as its unfamiliar.
i think he chose the cowards way out and shows he has no balls.
he also told me he had impotence from stress when he came down for valentines day and i felt sorry for him.
i thought i was a parnoid gf and went on antidepressants thinkn i was ill, but i was subconsiously knowing something i think.
sorry this is long, i just needed to vent and ask for advice on how to get over this.
thanx

well its almost been a month and ive had no contact with him whatsoever.

Chrissykissy83, sorry I looked over this posting. I hadn't seen it


I am so sorry to hear this Indeed, he is a guy w/o balls and you are better off without him and it is better it is now than when you would actually be married or something, but...........



obviously that doesn't comfort you and understandably so.

There is actually no advise to be given in situations like these. There is a jerk and it is hard to let go of him because it has become more than just a 'man', it is a relationship, it is a form of living thinking in pairs, etc. etc.... and being on your own again is like having fallen into a pit.

However, (yes, however) - he is the one losing out. If he's got problems being faithful he will encounter more problems during his life and, those problems won't be yours anymore.

I hope you will meet a man that is worthy of you

hey thanks for replying ayngel

well these last few weeks have had ups and down.
i went back to work and then all of a sudden couldn't cope anymore,i tried to. had massive panic attacks and no sleep. its all brought back my depression that i use to have a few years back, and today I saw the doctor and he told me ive got chronic depression and i hate it that ive let his idiot disgusting cheater do this to me, i thought i was stronger, i thought i was coping well, but i wasnt!!

It must have been a terrible blow to you and obviously things like that throw you back - but knowing what a heartless person he is must, somehow, make you feel better by knowing that you won't be spending the rest of your life with a person like that.

ayngel wrote:

It must have been a terrible blow to you and obviously things like that throw you back - but knowing what a heartless person he is must, somehow, make you feel better by knowing that you won't be spending the rest of your life with a person like that. :)

That is a good way of thinking of it
im just scared I'll never find someone i love that much again, because to me he was perfect in every way.
There must be someone more perfect out there though,

Well, he turned out to be not that perfect after all, right?

Don't be afraid that you won't find someone you'll love as much as you did love him If you won't find someone deserving of your love it will be 'their' loss. Some things we don't have in our hands. But it is always better than wasting a life away being terribly unhappy with a substitute we hold for 'love'