Ending a 5 year relationship

I've been dating the same guy since i was 18 and we moved in together about a year ago. Recently he told me that he wasn't sure if he was in love with me, but when I brought up the subject of my moving out he got really upset. Now I am just really confused.

The past year has been really hard for both of us. I am wondering if this is how he is dealing with his father's death that took place less than a year ago and his impending college graduation. I also want to know why he is stringing me along by telling me not to move out. Should I even bother to make this work?

Hi there, Percygirl - welcome here

This is really strange but it looks to me that he's pretty confused. He doesn't know what he wants I think. He's NOT SURE he loves you but if you'd move out you'd make the choice for him: decision, so that's where he's afraid of probably.

I don't know how old he was when he started to go steady with you, but it DOES happen that guys (but also girls) that start dating young start to ask themselves questions after a certain period of time - more because of the doubt that maybe they've missed something so they can't compare, than it is really doubting the feeling towards the partner.

I don't know if you should bother to make it work. It all depends on how you're together. Small things can tell a lot.

I agree with ayngel! But to add, TALK TO HIM. If you love him and he loves you then you guys will decide on what is best in both of your guys interests. Also, be there for him, losing a parent must be very hard, but as you are being there for him, don't forget to be there for yourself as well.

I ended an engagement with my high school sweet heart after 5 years, actually....

really I the above poster had it right when he said the guy was probably just as confused if not more so than you.

The best thing you can do without making a choice is not focus on it as much. Continue being the girl he fell in love with, and it will hopefully put him in a better place.

It is hard when someone starts wondering what else is in the world but it happens all the time to young couples.

I think when it comes down to it love should most definitely be mutual, and although you may want to be with him forever it is ultimately a choice both parties have to agree on.

Best of luck to both of you =]

Well my boyfriend just ended our 5 yr relationship with me and he is leaving for Afghanistan and he said that we have been having alot of trouble i nour relationship and that he fell out of love with me over time and right before our 6 yr anneversary. and he is leaving for afghanistan soon and i try to talk to him and tell him how much i love him and how im there for him and yet he says, "i understand." but says we are not getting back together. and im just really confused cuz i love him so much and its been too long for us to end it like this and i need advice from someone who can explain what i should do to get him back, how to make him fall back in love with me again. I'm really heart broken i really am.

DreamState83- I'm in the same situation right now. Ive been engaged with my high school sweetheart for almost a year. Weve dated for 5 years. He just graduated from nursing school, but we are on the cliff of breaking up.

I think we are both thinking about what else is out there. Do you regret breaking up with her? Do you think that it was worth it.
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