Feeling a little bit like Crap. Weird but i'm okay.

Well, my old story is posted here form start till the end: http://www.relationshiptalk.net/how-do-you-know-if-its- time-to-move-on-2788631.html and I'm still sure my ex wont contact me anymore plus i really dont see the attractive part jayspop last mentioned but thats of none importance actually.

just to summarize since the first post was really long:

i had a close to 2 year gf then cheated on me last august with another guy that lives abroad but visits the country every now and then. she went back to me but not leaving her bf and we broke up again because of that then back again until what jayspop described as my "great balls approach". i created a situation where she had to choose once and for all and she did. not me. she has promised to stop texting or contacting me and true enough she stopped all contact and the last time we saw each other we never talked anymore, just like 2 strangers passing by. well and good at least for me.

but anyways, i recently got word (not by my own effort just a friend telling me stuff even if i don't ask, noted on my last post on the first thread but now a major confirmation straight from her to my close friend) that my ex is engaged to her present bf already. i really don't mind it because that's her life and im out of it so no problem there right? in fact friends of mine say its too soon, it wont work, they seem to be too perfect for it to be real, she has many lies hidden and its actually a pity for the other guy and the likes and i tell them so what? i don't need to hear that anymore because im moving on, even if her engagement doesn't push through it still doesn't matter to me (truthfully maybe a little but not enough for me to go on depression and want her back) i am way past that already.

curiously is that what they call "true love" because i have never been a fan of quick relationships that end up getting married? much more they are in a long distance relationship. but i think my inferiority complex is coming into the picture, im feeling a bit down on how come its easy for her to enter this situation considering they only had a short time together and everything else is via internet or phone while we had 2 years and she couldnt even at least tell her family about us considering how close i am to her family.

this not about her actually, as i said i'm happy we stopped, no more guessing games, no more lies, etc. it was for the better. but im just wondering now my worth as a person.

dont get me wrong, im handling it pretty well, im just wondering only why such a thing had to happen to me, because i do plan to avoid it.

im still focused on fixing my life, my career and a relationship is not at my present list yet. i just hope to avoid this and see what i should truly see in the next person that comes my way.

i do have my own answers but i just want to hear other peoples say on this. any inputs?

Ahh james, we've been through the same thing, although now, i am more than over my ex because of how all of you guys helped me.

Well i felt that she is just not the person i guess for you. The engagement is probably it for you to move on and whatever happens to her engagement or marriage is none of your concern. Move forward and don't bother about her anymore.

But definitely if you cope without a relationship at the moment, thats great, I moved forward and met another girl but ended up in stupid state again due to her not being interested as she was still in her own problems that she was having.

At least i opened up my vision and look at someone else and believe that someone else better will come along (this new girl is actually much more compatible than my ex).

So i think you will get your fair share of girl, but definitely don't be like me and fall for someone who is not reciprocating again.

nice to hear from you again dejected. im sorry if i wasnt able to reply to some of your messages before, hectic time at work. dont worry i have way passed moved on already. as i said it not about what she is doing, but rahter what i need to see the next time i meet another. i actually know i wont commit the same mistakes but i just wanted to hear what other have to say (maybe i missed out on something). thanks for your reply.

and congrats on your moving forward stage as well. i know you hit a bump again but no matter, as long you dont loose yourself again, you'll be fine.

no worries man. its always great to move on.

what you you need to do is i guess, find the right girl that comes along or maybe just focus on your work currently, when this girl comes along, date or be in the relationship and of course get married when you can or you feel that you should.

after my last relationship, i don't really feel that being together for about 5 years will set anything or make anything better, i guess being together for 1 year to 2 years is enough to start thinking about moving to the next phase in life together.

i also would love to know what mistakes i should not commit again but, yeah i hit this bump and also not losing myself in the mean time. just that i do not know what else to do with her. like continue asking her out or talk to her as she does not really ask anything about me.

my ex still talks to me, show concern and stuff but whenever i tell her, why should you care when you are together with another man, she stops. i asked again like, why do you still loves/misses me but your with another man. she only could tell me she don't know. so i don't really give a damn about her as i have moved.

just that this bump is much more compatible and i thought it would work out but i guess it is going to stay like this until she get over that guy and start appreciating me.

Hi guys,
Just remember this: Everything happens for a reason.

@Jamessydon - Don't loose hope. For sure, you'll find your perfect match in time.

thanks, and dont worry, im not loosing hope. im actually taking things as they are. if it comes then it comes, if not then that shouldnt stop me finding ways to still enjoy life right? but of course this time around i should be much wiser.

Yes, that's correct.
Our painful experiences in life should not stop us in living and loving.Lessons are always learned by our not so good experiences. And that will make us more stronger and yes more wiser.

graciella wrote:

Our painful experiences in life should not stop us in living and loving.Lessons are always learned by our not so good experiences. And that will make us more stronger and yes more wiser.
:)

- nice words you said here. i hope a lot of people can see it this way too when they hit a wall.

Thanks that ypu appreaciate that i said.
I'm just trying to help others in my own little way.