In such panicking times with the massive layoffs and people struggling to keep their homes, the government ask for a bailout to help the economy. There is one solution that I think will help everyone and it’s nothing to do with money. It’s called appreciation of what you have.

If we all learned to appreciate what we have, we wouldn’t be in such a horrible mess because so many people are just trying to keep up with Joneses. How often do us Americans sit down and appreciate all the things we have: food, shelter, being able to see with 2 eyes, having 2 arms and legs. Not everyone is given to us and one day, things may be taken away without warning. It’s irresponsible people take out equity out of their homes to buy a brand new BMW that they cannot afford to be cool, buying phones and iPhones they have to max their credit card doing. What happened to being responsible, living within your means and appreciating with what you have in life. Do any of us really need to change their phones every few months? I understand that in America, buying keeps the country flowing but when people are spending money they don’t have, it becomes a burden and now we are experiencing that burden because the government is broke.

How few parents these days teach their own kids about appreciating everything they have in life? On Christmas, kids would open up presents and expect to get certain gifts and not realize that parents are buying toys and gadgets for their kids because the parents want them to be happy. But kids think they are entitled to certain toys, allowances and whatever their minds come up with because the other kids at school have it too. Why can’t kids learn to appreciate that not everybody is so lucky to have all their possessions? Maybe it’s because the parents are the same way too and they don’t appreciate what they have and it passes down to their children. If you spend your whole time trying to keep up with the Joneses, you will never be satisfied and will feel like there’s something missing. There’s nothing wrong with owning a Ferrari or a jacuzzi but the fact that you think you are entitled to one is when it becomes a problem. Appreciate everything you have. Your talent with music, your ability to sing… it’s a gift.

I think all of us, kids and adults, should spend 10 minutes each week thinking about things we have and appreciate them and say thanks. If we all could appreciate our lives, we would be happier people. Not everyone can be rich, but everyone can be happy.

A kiss is the touching of one person’s lips to another place, which is used as an expression of affection, respect, greeting, farewell, good luck, romantic affection or sexual desire. A great kiss can bring you closer together and make your love thrive but a bad kiss is hardly something that you can make up for in the worst case scenario if that was your first kiss.

I found on lovers lawn-blog a list of things that can be a kissing turn offs. one of the things on the list was bad breath as probably everyone knows it a huge turn off, so what do you do to avoid bad breath?

Ho-ho-ho Merry Christmas!  I am thinking about the holiday spirit, the giving, the receiving.  Makes me think the holiday spirit can be similar to the sexual spirit.  The giving and receiving, the exchange of gifts (pleasure), the fun parties, the unique ideas.  For some the holidays represents spirituality, for some it is a playful time.  Sex too, seems to have so many different meanings to individuals. 

What great gift can you share with our lover?  Heartfelt appreciation!  Imagine going to work and getting an unexpected email from your lover, where he/she is flooding appreciation all over you.  Imagine going to mailbox, and getting an unexpected card with a hand written list of all the things your lover adores about you.  Imagine hoping in bed, and you see an unexpected note from you lover on your pillow.

What are all the great qualities your lover brings to the table?

What incredible personality traits does your partner have?

What physical assets do you lust over?

What kind things does your lover do?

Start writing, and let yourself start to notice all the big and small things you appreciate.  Can you make a list of 10, 20, 40 things?

One of the biggest complaints people have is they feel over worked and under appreciated.  You can give the gift of appreciation.  It is actually one of the Best FREE Gifts to give.

Sabrina

www.ThePassionChallenge.com

courtesy of ashley rose,

I’ve honestly never had this problem in my life. When I really liked someone or let’s say even loved, it never took me that long to get over them. I was the type of person who realized I was better off and moved on to the next guy. Looking back that may not have been the best solution to my problems, but hey I never spent months crying over someone, until now. 

I don’t know if it’s because he made me laugh every time we were together. I don’t know if it’s because he was so gorgeous and fun I never glanced at another. I don’t know if it’s because for thr first time in my life a boy, this boy, made me feel completely happy and I never wanted to let that go. He didn’t have to be in love with me and he didn’t have to be my boyfriend. He just had to care about me and want just me. 

Doesn’t seem that hard, does it? Well Iv’e got news for you, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through, well almost.

We ended things because he didn’t want anything serious and hey if I had a boyfriend since junior high I would feel the same way. He said relationships turn you into ugly and jealous people and they make people change. I didn’t know he was right until later. There are so many demands in relationships that people end of feeling obligated to call, text, or see that person that it pretty much ruins said relationship. I wish things could be simple like the song, “I want you to want me.” That’s it. 

As for me, I never thought about it that way. I mean we laughed, drank, fooled around and had the best time. I can’t figure out why that wasn’t good enough or if he even still feels the same way about me. It drives me crazy to not know if he thinks about me or feels that chemistry when we stand close to each other.  

Maybe I’m just crazy,or maybe for the first time, I’ve fallen in love with someone. AHHH! I just can’t help thinking, WHY CAN”T I GET OVER HIM? I know all the steps in getting over guys, trust me I have been there numerous times. 

I’ve had guys who slept with girls the same day they were with me. I’ve had guys call me at two in the morning trying to just “get some.” I mean I’ve even dated someone who picked drugs over me. I’ve dated them all and it’s this guy, just this one person, who I can;t get out of my mind. 

I always think that if there was something to hate about him, something he did wrong, then I’d be done and forget him. He just seems so perfect in my eyes and I can’t take those blinders off. I don’t even want to. 

I guess I’ll just keep doing what everyone else does. I won’t see him, text him, stalk his facebook, stare at old pictures, or just plain think about how much I want him. In the end you just get burned. Lesson learned, don’t waste your time on someone who won’t waste theirs on you. It’s never worth it and all I know is my heart can’t take much more. 

Good luck to all the rest of us and to the ladies who have those special men, you hang on to them, because you just never know. 

Live your life, 

Andi

Www.twentythreeboys.blogspot.com

I’m sure you heard of that Patty Smyth’s song, “Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough” and it’s one of the most common problems in relationships around me. I hear people all the time are still together because they’re in love but for all the wrong reasons. It’s hard to let someone go because the feelings are so strong that it seems unbearable and it’s just not possible to that love with anyone else. But in relationships, love is not the only component. I think it’s a huge reason why so many people get divorced because all the other components are unstable and uncertain. When people get married, the husband and wife would say, “I love you” at the end. How about in addition to love you both parties should also say, “I trust you”? Or I will always “communicate” with you. They’re just as important as love. Love does not conquer all after all.

And love is one of those components people mistake the meaning of the word. Love is not about a feeling. That feeling you have for someone else is about you and not about the other party. Remember in Dicken’s A Tale of Two Cities when the main character sacrificed his life so the love of his life has the happiest life possible? That’s love. When you love someone, you are more concerned about the other person’s well-being either as much or even more than your own. So people who feel hurt during a break up, a lot of times, you feel bad because that person isn’t with you anymore and YOU are no longer happy. But you can feel loved by someone if someone cares about you more than themselves.

I understand it feels like crap during a breakup and that’s why a lot of us around perusing around these boards(while I’m writing this, I’m feeling a little off too from my issue). But it’s best we will move forward with our lives because there are so many other new people to meet in this world.