g/f of 3 years broke up with me how do i get her back?

my g/f of 3 years broke up with me about 3 months ago. She was hanging out with this guy for like 3 days before we broke up and i never knew about it until a week after. The whole month before we broke up she was saying how perfect our relationship has came to and how she really is ready to get engaged. Im just wondering on what i could do to get her back. Ive tried leaving her alone. I hope it wasnt me, she just said she was tired of our relationship. I did everything for her, i cooked, cleaned, and bought her things through out our relationship. We had problems last winter and we took a 3 month break of just seeing each other now and then and not seeing other people. But i ve tried leaving her alone, i just started talking to her again and she said we could finally be friends and that she would like to see me and my friends. And i told her if she ever wants to go for lunch just to see each other and catch up she says yes but she hasnt called me. Im wondering if she wants to get back with me? or if she ever will come back? I love her so much and already had the ring for me to propose to her. I just dont know if she is scared of settling or if she just doesnt love me anymore or what. But its been about 3 or 4 months and everyone says its supposed to get easier but it isnt at all!

Nasty10nate welcome to the forum

I don't think she wants to get back with you, unfortunately. You said she started seeing another guy 3 days before she broke up with you - is he still 'around'?

yes he is still around, but im not sure if she is actually dating him. she told me she was but she also has been dating another guy for a little while so im not sure, she broke up with the guy i found out she was dating a few days ago after we started talking again. She has told me she wants to see me, but she is unsure when because it will b hard for her. she says she misses me and my friends so im unsure if she wants to get back together? Everyone keeps telling me that i should just give it time and she will be back. We have had a break for 3 months last january and every since then our relationship was pretty good. She actually got a tattoe for me a week before we broke up, so i dont know if her friends were pressuring her to date this guy or what. but everyone says they dont know why she is dating him and why she broke up with me?

I think perhaps she wants some time alone again. She doesn't sound very sure about the relationship with you if she also left one time before already for 3 months and then now again. She is in doubt as far as I can gather it. I think your friends are right. You should give it time.

Ok this one is going to sound completely crazy but take my word for it. If you want her back...

Move on.

Once she sees that you aren't showing interest in her she may take a change and realize she misses your attention.

Right now she has everything in her hands. She has a guy she left you for, and then still has your attention. What good would it be to come back when she can already have her cake and eat it too?

Moving on is the toughest thing I could probably tell you to do but it works. Give yourself time to rediscover who you are as a person. In time you will gain motivation and security in yourself and when that happens you may look back and decide you don't even want her back anymore!

We all deserve to receive as much love as we give. Right now you are allowing for a one way relationship that caters only to her.

Best of luck

ya, ive been trying not to talk to her, every time i have she has said she wants to see me, she says she knows it will b hard for her, so im just wondering if i should ask her for lunch or something, or leave her alone

well we had lunch 2 weeks ago and she said she missed me, all she was doing was crying when i first saw her. she kepy saying how much she missed me and how she was soo sorry. we talked for about an hour, and she never really told me if she wanted to get back ith me or not. so i asked her if she wanted to stay friends or try us again. she said she didnt know, she said she doesnt know if it will be defferent or what will happen, and that she was confusd about it. she is still dating the same guy but she was supposaly breaking up with him soon. so i was wondering if she wants to come back to me or if she just wants me to wait incase her and that guy dont work out and if they do she will just leave me alone again?