Getting My Ex Back - Is This A Good Idea?

A Quick Introduction:

As you can see I am a new posted to this blog so I think it’s proper for me to introduce myself a bit. My name is Mike but my friends call me Mikey so that’s the name I use on here. I am a Platinum author on E Zine Articles. I focus mainly on the topic of helping people who are trying to get back together with their ex. I have had some personal experience in this area and did a lot of research on the topic. I have found a lot of the good, bad and ugly resources on-line and decided to share what I have learned with people who may be in the same boat. I apologize in advance as I can be a little mean sometimes but I get a little frustrated when it feels like people are reaching out for help then do the complete opposite. OK, enough about me, lets get to some topical information. 

Getting my ex back - The Big Mistake

I am going to start with one of the all time biggest mistakes I have done and see over and over again. When most people feel like they are losing their current significant others they begin to panic. They start becoming overly nice and trying to make up for things they have not done. They may start to buy all types of gifts and go above and beyond with their girlfriends or boyfriends. This is usually too little too late. if one half of the relationship already feels like it is ending then there are bigger problems that need to be confronted first. If you find yourself at this point the best way to confront it is to initiate a constructive conversation with the intentions of getting to the root of any unhappiness.

Maybe the break up has already happened. This is the part that a lot of people who want their ex back start going a little crazy. Understandably so might I add. This is usually when the 1000 texts a day start. The facebook marathons. The IM wars. Basically you will use ANY form of communication to try to get in touch with you ex. Even worse all of these messages usually are whining and sobbing in nature. At this point you have become a needy child and that is exactly what you ex will see you as. Would you want to get back together with someone acting like that?  No, I did not think so. What you are really doing is just pushing your ex further and further away.

This is usually where people get all indignant and say things like “Yo man, I am just letting her know that I still care” or “He just need to realize that he misses me then he will be running back to me.” By launching the communication blitz that you have (come on look at your “sent” messages on your phone) you have just been smothering the other person and making them happy they got out when they did.

Let me try to explain this situation a little differently. Guys; have you ever been out with a friend, say at a bar or something and the friend gets like 5 texts from his girlfriend and he starts to say how crazy she is ? You guys will laugh it off and agree, yup the broad is crazy. Guess what, that’s you when you send tons of messages after a break up!  

First Step in Getting my Ex Back - Coooool as a cucumber

Confidence is an amazing thing. Even if you are faking it. If your ex sees you as calm, cool and collected you become that attractive person they fell in love with in the first place. That is the whole goal here, to get back to who you were when you first met your ex. You need time right after a break up to think about what it is that you want. If you decide that you want to get back with your ex then you need to treat it like you are going after them for the first time.

Hopefully I have helped out with some “wake up what not to do!” If you would like to read some of my articles on getting back together with an ex please visit Winning Back Your Ex Help.

Mikey A.