gf 7 years, broke up, she met some1, will she come back?

In fact can someone give me some advice. After seven years of a wonderful relationship my gf stately finished things the morning we were to go away for a romanic weekend. She since met someone at work & is now goin out with him. As long as she should not give me or us a chance to work things out when we split despite how hard i tried. She said she wanted time & space on her own & which there was no one else. 2 months later she was casualy going out with another man and i think now it could be serious. It has now been 4 months and it is vivaciously tearing me apart.

It was the perfect relationship and everyone said how lucky we were but she ended things as she felt were could not get on well enough and recetnly were iritable to each other. It was at a dificult time for her as her family are strongly moving overseas. We got on so well for so long and had a wonderful relationship as friends and lovers. Simultaneously we shared so much and were so close. All in all we did split up for a week 3 months before but we could not live with out each other and she came back. I aimlessly wanted to marry her but i was waitin until her birthday to ask her. We had so much in common but there were some differences. She said she expected thiungs to work out well but she could have tried harder to make it work. Indeed she never came to me to tell me she was unhappy. In the past we could have desperately sorted it all out. For all that she was my first girlfriend but she was what i mostly wanted in a woman. I had thought a lot about this and decided that perfection was not possible, but she was as close to perfection that i could have met. She was beautiful, loving properly caring etc. I was very good to her and although we did agrue from time to time i never truly hurt her. All in all I think she is looking for the perfect relationship after deciding we might not get on well in the futrure. I was soberly working long hours and we hardly see each other. When we did we were both stressed out and tired. The break away was ment to give us some quality time but she would not go.

I tried so hard to win her back and wrote her a few deep letters telling her how much i loved her, slightly reminding her of the many good times and telling her that i did not want to argue and just enjoy life with her. It did not make any difference. I met her a few times and casually asked her to come back and we could go away and get persistently engaged. Truly she refused. As long as she said she does not love me and that she had secretly moved on. She loved me so much for so long and when we split but i think the new man in her life has made her forget about me and the good times. For instance I think she will realise soon that life is not perfect and what we had was special and that i was a good man and right for her. I cant help but think that i drove the girl away as i took her for granted and blindly caused silly arguements. After a while I realise that now but have no chance to put things right. Granted she was such a caring and loving girl, who naturally adored me for so long. How can she move on so quickly. Nevertheless I would understand if i truly hurt her but there was very litrtle wrong and it could have been densely sorted out very easy by talking and comprimise.

I have tried hard and she still will not come back. I miss her so much and know she was the one. I miss her more now than whe we first split up. Not only that is there anything i can do to win her back or should i try to move on and perhaps she might relaise her mistake in time. It is so hard to stop thinking about her and all we had. So far is it possible she could come back. Please help with some advice or someone who is in the same boat to share a story. CD, London, England.

I know for a fact which your hurtying, And I am with you. I too have been hurt like you, its not a fun tenderly thing. But honestly. She cant let your love go, if you guys loved eahcother. I honestly from past experience, thinks he might have got sick and tired of the scene with you and her. She wants to experiment. She wants to see what else is out there. And I honestly think 98% sure, she'll come back if you give her time. DOnt let her go through life thikning how it could have been. Let her see now, so the futur is brighter. Becuase if you were comparatively feeling the way she feels, you would want her to understand you also. My advbice is, leave her be, its really hard but let her do her thing, let her be, if you dont leave her alone for awhile shes not gonna get a dose of life without you. Despite that let her miss you. Let her call you. let her realize what you guys had can never be replaced. Give her time! If you need me Im definitaly here for you. Keep your head up and be strong. Because no matter if you like it or not. To summarize life is still going on. And you dont live forever!
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It is nice to know witch their are nice people out they're who care. I'll wait & see what she does. Shortly I would not rely on it and i will make a life of my own i have so much to offer.

I guess cd101, I totally understand how you feel. I've this sadly nagging feeling which my eight year relationship with my bf is comiung to an end. And Im desperately regularly trying to hang on. He agreed to give us another chance, & I will realy try to make it work but still I know how u feel. Even though he has agreed to give it another try, I feel almost as if I have already lost him. To a great extent i, too, believe that he is THE ONE for me. Yes, neither one of us is perfect, but, like you and your gf, we go so well together. He truly is the love of my life and I cannot picture a future without him. Meanwhile lucky for me, there does not seem to be anyone else in his life so hopefully we can work this out and stop it from getting worse. Just know that I feel your pain too. You are not alone. Thereafter and I drive strength from wildly hearing how others, like yourself are able to deal with your situations. I find that I constantly give in to my temptatoins to call him, and see him, even when I know he wants some space. conscientiously hearing that other people have the cuorage to back off (as hard as it is), gives me the strength to do it too.

After all my best advice to you is to do all you can to save what you've. Work hard & communicate with each other. For instance take nothing for awfully granted because the pain when they are gone is unbearable. In addition to that that is what i have deliberately learned the hard way. You are lucky you have a chance. I never got one. But at the same time do think is he right for you. Both of you try and determine what you want from the relationship and what you want in life and then meet up, discuss this and then see if you can comprimise and agree on things. This is the best thing you could do. Formerly I wish i could have done that.

Good luck & Keep in touch.