GGGRRRRR Sooo confused right now! My ex of a year and I brok...

GGGRRRRR Sooo confused right now! My ex of a year and I broke up recently becuase he "wasnt ready". It has been a month with really no contact and when I met up to finally get my stuff from his place he was all lovey and sweet and missed me. Then when I played it cool and dropped an email about hanging out he didnt want to, then I asked if we can casually date and he totally ignores me now and deleted me from his AOL? What did I do??? Why is he like this???

he may be trying to play hard to get. do not not chase him watever you do. I have a tip, write him a letter saying that you agree with the deciscion to break up and that, you did need time apart. Tell him that something interesting has happened in your life and would like to tell him about it sometime. Then that you can hope to be frinds sometime soon.

This will get him thinking why don't you really care. Guys or gals love things they cannot get. Wait till he texts or calls you again. DO NOT CHASE. this will push him futher. i promse that he will get into touch with you.When he does seem happy as possible, make him think that you can go on without him.

I have alot more tips if need more just let me know

dear,thr is a mistake that you did...
ever1 will react like you did,,,you know like givin a email,or leaving a text...but you shud never ever do this.Coz you shud make him realize that u r happy..
And act cool like what he did...being tender and all and all....
k that is the real trick..
Boyz do that always..
And let let me say you,sweetie, that you didnt do anything wrong..
If thr is a sayin that" You Can Never Understand a Girl".... Then 2day let me make another 1..--"You Can Never Never Never Understand What is Running On Boys Mind."We are like this ,,,,
When we shud act Tough-we act romantic and wher we shud be romantic we act tuff....
Just giv him some tyms ,,,, If it is your true love -It will come back Surely dear....take care

just found he put his pic back up on the dating site. Ouch. What is left to do? How can he do this? I feel like everything is a lie.

First things first, how long were you dating? if you have been dating for awhile then i would say that there may have been some signs. Stopped kissing you as much, stopped telling you he loved you? well ......
I have been in your shoes, i wanna start by saying be strong. he may be trying to find a rebound. i know this hurts but trust me i have been in your shoes. Your stomach hurts, your chest is heavy, your head literally hurts from thinking of them? its hard to eat? Every song on the radio is your song? Ev ery breath gets deeper...
What you need to do is write him a final letter to get all of your feelings out so that he knows exactly how you feel without any doubts. take time to yourself and just get out and enjoy making yourself a better person.
I WOULD LOVE FOR NYOU TO TRY THIS...... Look up the song Come Back to Me by David Cook. Write these lyrics down.. Trust me it will bring tears to your eyes how much his words are your feelings
By doing this you are putting the pressure on him.. than you can go on and not wait... this is important. Only fix yourself. change yourself into the person you first were when you started dating. That Whitty gorgeous girl he fell into love with...

Keep yourself busy..... KEPP IN TOUCH LET ME KNOW HOW THINGS WORKED

I am so totally hurt by his behavior. it was a year and i was literally living with him at the end. And he just goes NC except then he called me at x-mas then he gives me my stuff back and all telling me im beautiful and he misses me and wants me in his life, then after grabbing me and kissing me like crazy he tells me hes so sorry for the breakup he just not ready for commited relationship and i deserve better. Then now he is on dating site and took me off contact. WTF??? I just dont understand how he can shut off like that and act like i am just nothing to him! And it hurts he is so fast, its been less than a month and he already looking after he said he not ready! I tried to be a good GF and he said he knows i truly loved him and he never cried for anyone else but his mom like he did me!

and also i had actually broken with him in Sept. before he went home because i was hurt that he was so hot/cold emotionally (from beginning) but he begged me not to leave and said he wanted me in his life, but then after that we had a little tiff and he wanted to leave now but ended up not, then things were ok for a month and the last 3 weeks of dating he treated me the best he has ever in the whole relationship and was so sweet and loving and patient. I thoought we had finally settled in and were perfect, and that is why i was shocked when he then took me aside randomly on a night we had plans then told me it was over. Right before i was going home to see family. I was just shocked!

Does anyone think that this is harsh behavior?? I mean, I'm not perfect but i was a good GF and he was the one that was hot/cold. He asked me to re-add him to FB and so why a day later is he so mean to me now?

Well for one this guy really seems immature. He is acting like an elementary jerk. You are not mean to girls you like.

He seems to be playing mind games with you. look at my situation on my profile. i could use some advice too. He seems to want best of both worlds, someone who will always love him, but yet want his frredom. Well bud that doesn't happen in the real world. one or the other.

Wow, that's totally true! I felt like he cared but when it worked for him! Thanks for being totally right about that. it makes me feel better to know I'm not just overreacting.. I have a few things at his place still. Should i just let them go or contact in a month? Do you think he is thinking i will?

i would text or call him your choice and say well i have a few things i need from your place, i need to get them. i could send somebody to get them or get them myself. when is a good time for you.

honestly, i still care and im afraid he hates me now because i asked him if we cant talk things over before. he made it seem like he wasnt sure but wecould talk and now i feel like he is totally cold on me. Why dont guys want to take time and try again if they care? I totally would try again if i really cared for a guy.

You seem like you have really good advice. I was wondering if you could help me? My boyfriend and i were together for 7 months which is a long time for a teen. We had a very bad mutual break up and i immediately tried to fix things. He told me he would never take me back. He was furious with me for 2 months. Anyway, he accidentally text me and then we casually talked for a week, mostly me. Then on Valentines day he sent me a text valentine and said it was his fault and he screwed up our relationship. I made the mistake of telling him i missed him. Now he is not texting me and when i text him he is really short. I told him we needed to talk in person and he put me off. Now he's on myspace saying that hes texting this girl and blah blah blah. What do i do now? and do you think he is playing hard to get and trying to make me jealous. What is he doing? and what do I do?