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Posted 3 Months ago
Fort_Walton88
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My girlfriend of a year and I broke up about a month ago. We had a wonderful relationship, and the break up wasn't bad at all. She had gone through a rough time in the past few months, her uncle passed away, she got into some legal trouble, and I also moved out of state to take care of my mother. When I went to visit her for my birthday we had a long talk and she said she felt emotionally unstable. She had gotten out of a five year relationship to be with me, and had a lot of emotional damage done to do her because of the previous relationship. She said she felt like she couldn't shake it, that she never got over the pain and didn't know how to stand on her own two feet. She said she wanted to be better for herself and for us in the long run. We've talked everyday since we broke up. We tell each other that we love each other, and that we miss each other. She tells me she can't wait for me to move back, things like that. When we broke up she asked for time and space but it's like we're still together sort of without being together. I'm tired of this circle. I've been her everything, her best friend, her support, her encouragement, and I love her and want to do that for her. But she's taking me for granted. It feels like nothing is changing and I don't know what to do to get her back for good. I've been told that I should walk away and let her miss me, but I'm scared that'll just push her away. She knows that I love her and that I want her, but she said she doesn't know what she wants or needs until she gets her head right. She doesn't want me out of her life, and she definitely doesn't want me to let go or move on (she's said so). I love her and I know she loves me, but I don't know what to do. I've been her everything, I want to marry this girl. Should I walk away or put up and shut up. Any help would be appreciated.
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Posted 2 Months, 4 Weeks ago
ayngel
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Hello Fort_Walton88, welcome to the forum

This:

she said she doesn't know what she wants or needs until she gets her head right.



I think is your cue. It will be hard but the only realistic chance of ending up together is for you to wait until she is a little more sure about everything. It would be a waste if this relationship would start all over again and nothing in her head would have been solved.

From you sir is required to be patient. Nothing else. However hard this may be ....
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