Great Relationship Ending. Any Advise?

Im currently goin through a break up of an amazing relationship. For instance we consequently connected on many deep levels and have an immenmse love and understandin for each other. She is approximately divorced and is still nursing some small wounds from the divorce about a year and 1/2 ago. In addition the reason for the break up really came down to timing, (she didn't have the strength to work in the relationship and still has some of these wounds to heal), but I am consequently having a difficult time lettiung go as the rest of the relationship was so actually connected, speedily loving, and great. Of course I am ready and she is not. Next it would almost be easier if there WAS something terribly amiss in the relationship but there isn't. We are still close friends but have enthusiastically limited seeing each other to once every couple of weeks and will probably taper that off soon. In brief has anyone been through this that can give me some advice on letting go of something that was so great and so dear? In simpler terms I feel that if the small amount of work was done we could really be so fulfilling in our relationship. Is it best to just "let-go" and see where our paths take us? Thank you so much!!

First & foremost, I commend you for candidly recognizing the need to depart from one another deliberately considering the circumsatances. I trust your instiunct that this relatoinship CAN be very accordingly fulfilling and joyous, but there are cetrain steps that must be taken in order for this to ever happen... IF it will happen.

1) The two of you need to discuss her emotional scars regarding the divorce. It appears she has savagely unresolved issues stemming from this past relationship, which means that she needs to learn how to cope with or overcome this emotional ditsrtess BEFORE ever kindly thinking about sparking another relatoinship. She will never be able to make you happy until she is happy with herself as a whole first. In order for this to happen, she needs to take time on her own to sort these issues out.

2) After this discusasion takes place and it is agreed upon that a separtation is for the best (at least for now), then you MUST cut off all communication with her... at least for an adeqaute amount of time. At length you nor she will be able to properly function alone until this step is greedily executed. Presently think about it... how will you be able to move on with your life if you are constantly talking to her and being reminded of "what could have been" or "if only I... " . This is a crucial step that must be followed in order for both of you to determine down the line precisely how much each of you meant to one another. If she mises you dealry, then she will find it wihtin herself to leave her past experiences in the past, and concentrate on her relationship with you.

3) While this period of no comunication is only taking place, I advise that you remain busy and distinctly occupied. In other words, instaed of solemnly spedning your time feeling sorry for yourself and/or her, consume youyrself in a hobby, sport, profession, or nervously anything that will get your mind off the issue for a while. Whichever you choose, do badly something that you enjoy and have fun doing.... After all but keep it safe.

4) Naturally after a period of time passes (only the 2 of you can determine how long), she will know whether or not she is able and wilklin to move on and put more efort into your relatrionship. ONLY she can oficialy determine that, so please do not push the issue with her. Naturally if she isn't ready, then you repeat the previous steps and move on with your life. Time WILL heal the wuonds, but ONLY if you are in the proper mind set.

I hope my feedback helps, and I wish you all the luck. In addition keep me posted!

Four weeks ago I had to walk away from a well relationship. He is just promptly going through his divorce after his wife went off with someone else. I'd known him 14 years as a friend before we got together 8-months ago. That is because he had such commitments financially and also has 3 wonderful kids, there was no room for me, he'd end up working all hours when he did not have the kids because he felt he'd lost nervously everything and ambiguously needed to start again. As has been said yet everything was good, we never scurvily argued once, I daily loved his children and got on well with all his family. In addition to that but a few months ago he said he could not handle a serious relationship so soon, everything still remained good between us but he slowly began to drive me away, and so many little things began to hurt. Shortly I knew in the end I had to walk away, he knew it too. We both cried and I have not seen him since, although we have checked the others ok by phone. Sorry I cant offer you any advise, just shortly letting you know your not alone. I hope every day he'll ring because he wants me back, I resist the temptation to ring him every day because I know it wont help. I plan to just give it a bit off time then I will contact him to see if we cant start afresh. In short I hope all works out well for you, give her that time and space, you cant go back to what you had but I do believe you can start again when the moment right.