gutted..confused

ok duno how to say this.. run out of ideas just cant get out of my head so figured might help on here..

so im travelling in the uk.. technically only here till october but might be staying for good.
i met this girl about a month ago, we started hooking up, hung out fairly reguarly.. she told me she was falling for me, cudnt stand the thought of me with another girl..butterflies when she sees me etc.. and we had the whole im a traveller it really wouldnt work it if it was serious chat etc.. she said ok, but still got really serious..wanting to meet the family and see me every night..
i actually started to realise i was falling for her too, and being a bit of a dick i started pushing her away cus i promised i wouldnt fall for someone over here..wed both get hurt if that happend..
she one day sent me 19msgs and i didnt reply, if i did reply itd be a cpl of words..wouldnt answer calls, would say im busy when she wanted to hang out... It was cus i was scared about falling for her over here, and i didnt want her to get more hurt in the end. she ended up asking me what was wrong, we had a chat.. i told her im sorry i just had been busy etc and i really care about her, she told me she was mine while im here if i want her and i was willing to give it a go. The next day she met up with a guy she met 2days earlier, and they started going out...
It hit me hard, i know its my fault for running away in the first place, but ive realised how much i adore her, ive never felt as amazing before as i do with her.. i at first was angry when i found out told her i didnt know how she cud bullshit me like that..and that i didnt want anything to do with her again.. one night shes falling for me wnats to be with me... the next she has a bf...
i sent her an email about how i felt.. didnt get much back just more confusion.. and since ive sent msgs, she barely replies and if she does its not much.. she said she still cares, she still lieks me but she makes him happy cus he gives her security.. tried to catch up to talk and she keeps bailing but makes another day.. then i told her i couldnt keep doing this and making so much effort to make everything ok or get answers, and get nothing back form her, she knows how i feel so theres nothing more i can do..and then she told me it meant sumthing but i was a twat, and then the feeling died, and hes perfect for her..
i just dont know what to do.. is it possible to get over sum1 that fast? i know she wants space now to be with him.. she said she still wants to be friends but thatss hard.,,
i duno any advicce or insight would be so good rite now, cant stop thinking about it, how i messed up and how i can atleast get her being happy and normal with me again, so maybe the options there one day when things settle..

Diamonds87, welcome to the forum.


Indeed you messed up. Sorry to be harsh. If you'd shown her your true feelings from the beginning everything might be alright now. However, what I wonder about is, doesn't the fact that you didn't want a relation with someone in the UK form an obstacle anymore?

yea i know i did thats ok.. lol
no...its made me realise whats important to me..the things that stopped me from being able to commit originally really arent as important to me.. shes made me realise what i want in life, even the kind of person i want to be..
i might be moving to the uk for good anyway..if it worked out and i got her back.. id make it work, or try as hard as i could too, moving to the uk would deffinately be a start if not straight away then in the near future..

Does she know you would be prepared to move to the UK permanently?

not as such.. havent said those exact words..
i told her i was moving somewhere else.. we caught up before i left the other day.. and turns out she does feel the same, said she wished she could kiss me.. shes hapy with him but till has feelings for me, wish id have told her all the stuff i did earlier.. its still there still amazing when were together..
im tempted to go back and fight for it jus not sure of my chances.. im not the safe option i guess

Well, if you consider staying in the UK you might be a very stable option. After all she had feelings for you first. And, a girl can definitely not be happy with a guy (that other boyfriend) if she still has feelings for someone else.