Hard Break Up

My girlfriend of 22 months broke up with me last week. She is going to university in about 5 weeks and says she doesnt trust herself to complete university while she is with me. She says she loves me too much and would miss me too much. She said that If she sent we would argue and split up and end on bad terms. She just wants to know she can do it without leaning on somebody.

Obviously I was gutted and feel very down but i backed her decision. I said Ill miss you lots but ill support you. She said that her heart wil lalways be mine and there is always a chance. The thing is she has just come back from a holiday with her friends, I know they have probably helped her make this decision but im just hoping that if I leave her alone she will come round and realise what she is misisng. She says she wants to marry me one day and have children and I do to. Can we really move on for three years and hope to rekindle our life together.

We had an amazing relationship no arguments and she feels the same. I just think she needs time on her own and maybe miss what we had. Any advice really to stop me from ringing her and texting her constantly?

She just texted me this morning saying i love you and wil llove you forever! Is this a serious case of just let her get on with it and she should come back?

Thanks

Hi ib1512491136 welcome to the forum

I think, since you said you backed her decision, that you should at least try not to phone and text her. Not for her, but for you. This is giving her a carte blanche to decide what she wants. In the meanwhile, since you've both broken up, I think you should go on with your life since sitting back and waiting for someone else to take a decision over that I don't think is being fair to yourself. If, after those 3 years (or before, if she decides to renew the relationship) you will still have the same feelings and she decided she wants to continue the relationship - that will be a decision taken that time, under those circumstances.

Be strong. You can't force it.