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This happened while I was with my ex and I need opinions to see if this was an overreaction from me so I can learn from this.
Briefly, I met the love of my life we had both came out of 8 year relationships.
My previous ex of 8 years and I had really gone our seperate ways and didnt talk any longer. Now i'm with this new girl very in love 4 months into the relationship she was showering one morning and her alarm started going off on her phone so I picked it up and not knowing how to use it just started hitting buttons...... it goes back to a text she had replied to her ex saying "yes I do miss you, you should come home soon" (He was in the UK)
I put the phone down and didn't say anything for about a month until one night I said look I'm really sorry i saw this sms i didnt mean to, I softly said is there anything I should be worried about? she said no we are just freinds.
And yes she was upfront and showed me when he email her etc etc. but It was becoming a weekly thing and he would call up drunk at random times.... they were still sorting out 8 years of car agreements and your name on this and that still so......yeah.
and mind you he had to be tall handsome, very smart, and very wealthy family of course!
Its funny cause she would be super happy talking to him, different laugh etc.
His parents would email her and say "I think someone really miss's you"
He came back home to visit for a month and I had a feeling she would be seeing him, I said probably dont tell me if your seeing him or talking to him because I go to work for the day and thinking "oh great my GF is out with her ex".... great days thinking about that.
Don't get me wrong I was trying so hard to be supportive and understanding and I was being very good about it I think, and I'm not a jeleous person at heart I just hate the yucking which I described to her in the first get to know each other days.
on and on it went! about 3 months later we are still very in love I was a week away from asking her the big question. just to let you know how serious we had become.
One day I was booked to fly out for work for the week and my job got cancelled at the last minute so I drive to our local shopping place/movies and I call her and say Im free for the day lets catch up.....she hesitates " oh i have things to do" the tone gave it away straight up!
I said again just softly "your seeing him" and she said yes and I said "what are you guys up to?" she said going to the movies then coffee then some dinner" I said oh ok this just feels a bit yuck right about now thats all with this timing being a little suss and all, she said "but you told me not to tell you" hhhmmmm
I got off the phone then rang back a bit upset once it kind of sunk in, thinking maybe she would cancel with him and come with me because I had the time off...... but all she said was "but I want to see him" I didnt want to say anything bad right here, So I hung up
I Went away for work and spent the entire week trying to drag myself out of the mud over the phone, I was a jeleous this and that according to her.
I said its not jeleousy! it that yuck feeling I don't like. I said I trust you but that was just plain and simply just yuck!
Anyway did I over react? I know we aren't together anymore but I don't want to make the same "mistake" twice. mates that I've mentioned the story to said why didn't I go home and get my bags right then.
See I trusted her she was just a really genuine person with no cheating history and was just not that type of person, I went to school with her 10 years early and knew everyone that she knew. or were my feeling doing a little blinding.
Did I do bad?
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