I met this guy over a year ago in March. We hit it off right away, and we exchanged numbers. We started communicating via text for about a week straight. I thought, wow, I really like this guy. The next time we hung out he told me that he had taken a job offer out in Texas, and that he would be leaving in 3 months. I was naturally bummed out, but I decided to hang out with him anyway because I thought you never know what could happen.
He told me that he was scared because he could see himself getting serious with me, but he was moving away and he didn’t want to deal with the hurt of getting close and then having to part ways. But, we found ourselves hanging out anyway.
Three months later he left for Texas, and I figured he would forget about me and we sort of lost contact for a little while. In the meantime I got a new boyfriend because I didn’t want to waste time on something if it wasnt going to work out. I figured if he wanted me he would eventually start missing me.
He came home to visit in August, and he asked me if I wanted to meet up with him. I said sure, but we are only going to do it on a friend to friend basis because I had a boyfriend at the time.
He expressed to me that he wasnt over me, that he thought about me everyday, and he wanted to see where this could go. I figured he just wanted to get in my pants so I didn’t really pay much attention to it. I figured that once he went back to Texas all would be forgotten because I wasnt in his immediate life.
When he got back to Texas I found him calling me everyday, he was mentioning how there were alot of job opportunities out here, and he seemed really excited about having me in his life again. I then broke up with my boyfriend because I found myself thinking about Texas.
We have been doing this call/text thing for about a year now, and neither of us have gone out of our way to see eachother. I have mentioned him making a commitment to me, but all he says is that he is not ready for a commitment right now but maybe later down the road. He has told me that I am the last person he was with, but for some reason I have trust issues with him.
My issue lies with this. He says one thing and acts another. He tells me he thinks about me everyday, cares about me, but yet he wont send me flowers, he doesnt call as much as he used to. And now I barely get a text/call. When I ask him what is going on he gets irritated and says “I told you that we cant be together right now.”....so whats the point? I’m supposed to sit and wait around while someone tells me they care, and yet they wont make the efforts? Not until he decides he wants to take the next step? I told him I feel like I’m missing out, and he said “thats not my fault, live your life.”
Please help me make sense of this situation....