Help me! My gf gets mad at me for everything even things that are out of my control!!

I Need Help!!

I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 16 and she gets mad at me for everything!! even For things that are out of my control but i can't stand up for myself because i'm scared of losing her.. She always says that she is done with me and i can't let her go.. i always get her back.. but for example.. on my graduation she got mad at me because my family was coming down.. but what am i suppose to do.. i was graduating and of course my family was coming down to see me.. and my mom said that i couldn't be on the phone ignoring everybody which is totally understandable.. She knew that we wouldn't be able to talk on my graduation day but when i told her that family was coming down the night before she flipped out.. we have a lond distance relationship because she moved away about a year before we started dating.. and her parents won't drive her down to texas and she lives in missouri.. sometimes i think she is bi polar but i don't want to say anything that would make me lose her because i'm deep in love with this girl. and i'm so scared of losing her but it doesn't even seem like she is scared of losing me.. the only time she tells me she loves me is basically when she is drunk or when she thinks i'm mad at her.. she promises that she will never lose me but the next day she is breaking up with me.. i dont know what to do.. I cant lose her.. if i lose her i would have nothing to live for! She gets mad at me for EVERYTHING and i mean everything.. She doesn't like me hanging out with my friends because she thinks that i won't talk to her but she has never given me a chance to talk to her when i'm with my friends she just assumes that i will ignore her.. but.. when she is with her friends she totally ignores me.. but i don't get mad.. I can't stand her attitude sometimes.. its driving me crazy! i just want to let everything out.. like how its crap how she treats me and how she never has a real reason to get mad at me and that i think she just looks for reasons to fight because she knows i'll beg for her to stay.. which i shouldn't have to right? On mothers day she got mad because i went out to eat with my mom and family.. it was mothers day.. she went out to eat with her family.. why couldn't i? I dont know what her problem is.. but it's starting to get on my last nerve and i cant tell her anything about it bothering me because i dont want to lose her but i dont think i can keep everything bottled up inside of me for much longer.. the next time she breaks up with my im scared i'll just say fine and she will say k bye and never talk to me again.. i don't want that.. i love her more than anything else!

Can somebody please help me..

I think that you should just talk to her about everything. let her know that if she don't cut the crap out that she will lose you forever.

I think you should flat out tell her that you can't take the bull anymore and just get over her

If she really loved you she would tell you that she loved you all the time not just because she was drinking or thinking that you're mad at her.. Maybe she is spoiled who is used to getting her way of things. So don't let her control you!

Will somebody please help me really.. i need HELP!

First off...has anyone told you you have schitzophrenia.

Secondly...if any of this is true...you also have co dependancy.

Third...if this is not true...you are making fun of a sight where others, I hope, truly come to seek a third opinion.

Fourth...if any of this is true...you should seek help for the fact that you are in a long distance unrealistic relationship and completely can't see you are dating a woman who treats you like a puppy dog to command and that you have to let go of this myth that you can't lose her.

Five...at the rate she is controlling you, you do not have her to hold on to. You are the only one in this relationship.

Six...Considering you have come here and been the one to write and the one to answer all under different guest names...I think its time you went out, socialized and met a new set of friends, started dating a nice girl and you have been on your computer too too much.

this is true and i no i do not have skitso whatever i just thought that if some other replies were there then somebody would help me. When i answered my own problem i put what other people have told me. i just wanted someone to help me. and i hardly ever get on my computer just when i have school work. I have plenty of friends and she is a nice girl when she is not in a bad mood.

this is true and i'm not making fun of this website i really have come for help.

You are one stressed out kid.
I'll give you that.


You are dating a girl that puts herself way way up there.
Otherwise known as angry people, arrogant people, critical hurtful life sucking people, etc etc.

First reality.

All these negative immature mentalities can display periods of niceness for a short period of time.

It's called the hook, carrot dangle, the suck you into their web mode.

It gives you a sense of confused comfort and its the period they work to gain your trust.

It's actually the superficial period.

Your girlie has a very arrogant false ego that has to be fed non stop and when she doesn't get her way she is hostile.

It's almost Miss Unreasonable Command and Demand, isn't it?

This personality appears to have it altogether but really, she is very empty, is very critical of others and knows how to boss so she is never bossed herself.

She is irrational and everything sets her off because of this arrogant confidence.

Once you have been taught what you are dating....
your pedastol thinking and the cocaine rush you experience from her fiestiness will be revealed to you and you will be less tolerant of her blow ups once you realize why she performs them.

(It's because of her inner belief that other people are stupid and need to be reprimanded and its mostly out of habit rather than rational thought.)

Do you think you are stupid?
There is no reason for half of her hissy fits.
She just likes to be a hissy fit because it keeps the attention on her and it keeps you hopping.

And no, she isn't going to change.
It's a very privledged lifestyle to be a bossy princess.

What will she say when you confront her?
You will be put down for your rudeness.
You will be blamed for all her whole ruined life, etc etc...

You are just dating a wannabe movie star who creates hype and drama and makes you believe she is an important somebody and if you are not on board she knows how to switch you off with threats manipulation and guilt and all the world is her stage.

And that is why you are so hooked and that is why you feel your life will be so empty and nothing without her.

She is a super shot of seretonin for you with extreme highs and lows. Never a dull moment.

Can you live with this for the rest of your life?
The answer is, she will tire of you and treat you like a pion when she has exhausted you and needs a fresh attention source.

A life sucker.

Now this may not be what you wanted to hear.
You probably wanted a rational solution to fix her.

But unfortunately she is not broken, and she loves being selfish, self centered and miss attention getter.

You are not any of those things pre mentioned.
You are a guy with a good heart that thinks she is something special and she is not.

And I also gaurantee you will crave this type of girl for about the next 20 years and then you will want a quiet sweet sappy girl into your 40's.

But this one is too much too handle and she ain't gonna stop and she is only gaining power as we speak.
It's going to take a male rockstar who completely doesn't even notice her to tame her and break her down to a complete slave and a nothing and that is the types she will go for. Men who can beat her into submission. Don't worry, one day she will feel like you and be too stuck up to ask for nice you back.

Sorry dude.

It's something to be said for the saddistic takeaway and you also have to be the right guy to practice the take away on her.

She already displays impatience and disrespect for you so she will not respond to you. She is of the belief that you are so lucky to be with her for this moment and that you had better not once flinch for she is doing you the favor of the century by being your girlfriend this week.

Yup, this really is what they brainwash themselves with.

Boychile you know gymgirlie is straight and says too much too hurt to deep. But the reality is alot of what she is saying is the reality of your relationship. Take it from me, I have been in a relationship for 8 years and the controlling must have it their way or no way is the norm of their life.

Cut your loses and run as far and fast as possible. if you are lucky you may not have to lean on antidepressants and shit.

Be the boss 50% and let her be 50% if she demands more tell her go to hell and you walk away never to look back-the one is out there awaiting you-have faith and may God bless you...

i know what you mean im allways mad at my boyfriend to its becouse i have a lot of problems with my family and every time i get mad at my mom or dad i get mad at my bf to and thats like all the time and he begs me all the time to and i like that so i just get more mad at him,,i think you should try talking to her asking her how shes doing with her family.. i hope this helps.