Hey I need advice on how to handle this situation I'm in. My...

Hey I need advice on how to handle this situation I'm in. My girl and I are in a serious relationship, we don't live together but we been together almost 2 years now. She stays several nights of the week at my house. And were you know in love and all that jazz. Love is strong, don't let my lack of adjectives of our love deceive you. I love her very much and she loves me. We even talk about getting married all the time, but were not engaged, not anytime soon either. So pretty serious. But to my dilemma I need advice on how to handle her new job. She will be working as a cocktail waitress at a little club downtown. What is going through my head is all the guys trying to pick her up and given the situation an accident could happen. One of my deepest fears,but a fear I've faced before her. I don't want
to get hurt nor do I want to make her mad. She will make bank
There and for our age it's a good price. (Early 20`s) I know I can trust her but its easier said then done. I would like to know if someone has some experience in this matter,and would like to share there thoughts. Thanks.

Well, try to not let this fear interfere with the relationship because she will already be stressed out from working, and coming home to an interrogation could get her thinking about trying it. Give her the benefit of the doubt as you have been. She is innocent until proven guilty. There is the concern of drunk behavior, so she should watch out for more than just activity that happens within the bar for her own safety, if you know what I mean. I'm not sure how safe your city is, but I'm assuming that she will get off work fairly late at night. Anyway, cool off on marriage talk unless you two are actually engaged. If she brings it up, go with it, but don't dangle that carrot carelessly.

Thank you for you response. It was good to hear some
useful advice. Much appreciated!

You're welcome.

Do not ever question her or accuse her...

"WHAT WE FEAR...WE CREATE"... Meaning... If you fear what "could" happen in your head, you will change your attitude and become even more insecure, and CREATE problems.

It sounds like you are already on a good path!!!Allow yourself to be a supportive partner and with that comes the responsibility of curbing self held insecurities...this is difficult but very important in self growth and ultimately important in establishing the foundations for a strong relationship. Be the guy she tell anything too without judgment and you'll have a 'life-long' partner that respects you.

Also allow yourself to delve further into how to set aside feelings like jealously. Self growth means seeing the bigger picture of what you're invovlved in and what role you play...potential husband vs. someone who needs constant reassurance. Good luck with your journey.