Hey, I'm new to the forum. Basically signed up on the forum ...

Hey, I'm new to the forum. Basically signed up on the forum to get some tips and different perspectives about my situation.

I met a girl in the last year of high school and she was my prom date and we got pretty serious, but she left to go study in Europe.

We still tried a long distance relationship; she still loved me and I loved her. Things were going well until I found she cheated on me and still saw her ex-boyfriend from time to time.

I then dumped her, yet we still had arguments over email. She said that she'll spend weeks, months, years trying to get me back.

I did forgive her, but I said things would have to change. She then later confessed that she lied about having sex with a guy, and I got pissed at her for that and I ended it.

Now she's coming back in a month or so to visit. Coincidently, she comes back a day before my birthday. Also, her Windows Messenger status says "missing you" although I'm not sure if that's about me.

To be honest, I do miss her and I want her back. Her ex-boyfriend is possessive and still thinks they're going out and he wants to fight me, I ignore him, but I'd be ready to put my mixed martial arts training to the test. I'm just wondering is it worth going through all of this trouble for a girl that meant a lot to me?

What's the point of fighting her ex-boyfriend? He's not the one who cheated on you.

I'm not. I never instigated anything. He wants to fight me, but I ignore him. I'm just saying if I get her back, he'd definitely come after me.

If it comes to that, it would be less messy to have her decide between you and him. It could be a step towards making up on cheating on you.