Hi everyone here's my story .. its been a month and a half s...

Hi everyone here's my story ..

its been a month and a half since our break up . He told me he doesn't love me anymore and that he sees no future with me and doesn't want to be in a relationship . He wants to live his life since before me he had a gf for 2 yrs and after her me for 2.5 yrs. He told me he's happy being alone and wants to be friends . Neways I couldn't stay friends with him . Its been 3 weeks of NC and I haven't hrd a thing frm him he's trying to avoid me. I've seen pics of him on fb all drunk with girls and having a lot of fun , looks like he's moved on . He tells everyone that he's over it and doesn't wanna tlk abt it he's not facing it . I was also very clingy n needy in the relationship he even told my friends that he hates how I'm dependant and weak and he wants somone that's independant and strong. This is the fIrst time that I don't call for 3 weeks . Wud he notice that I'm not chasin him anymore ? Maybe he thinks that he can get me anytime he wants and just going through a phase and is in denial?

what should I do is it posible to make him want me again ? Or call me ! I don't want to be the one to make the first move I tried everything nothing worked before .. I'm staying in NC .. Any advice ?

Seeing as how he was already drunk with girls already, he's probably the bachelor type. What has he done for you to want him?

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Seeing as how he was already drunk with girls already, he's probably the bachelor type. What has he done for you to want him?

I'm not bashing on the author of this topic but the phrase "you want what you can't have," holds true for many people.

He has moved on. Why do you continue chasing him? If he's off getting drunk with other girls, he has probably forgotten you because he's as mature as a typical drunk frat boy. You need to realize that YOU'RE BETTER WITHOUT HIM.

Here's my honest opinion of you:
You need to be single for a while to grow up (I'm not saying you're immature). Being single is IMPORTANT in your journey to find the perfect man. You need time to reflect on the faults that made your relationship with him end. It's impossible to grow as a person and a lover when you can't find a way to just be happy and love yourself by yourself.

It sounds stupid, I know. But to me, I feel like I've grown more as a person during the times that I've been single than during the times that I've been in a relationship.

Forget him, it's his loss.

Maybe there were something about you like dependent etc make him tired... then you should fix it first before you make any move toward him

About he went out to get drunk with girls, trust me, this is what guys do to get over the break up, my ex told me that normally he went and had one night stand with other girls to get over his old break up, this should show you that he is trying to get over you, but if he can do it or not, time will answer and the more you contact him, the more you drive him away

Guys are stubborn, they will not listen to anyone advice or asking them about the old relationship once their mind set says it is over so they got annoyed when people try to tell them to do different way, or to re consider

He did not contact for 3 weeks is not a good sign but still too early to say, keep the NC on... keep it on until one day, he will call, trust me, he will call when you are not expecting it anymore

My suggestion is keeping the NC, try to focus on other thing and stop looking at his FB etc in order to avoid any pain he might cause.

So one way, you should try to move on, keep the NC, if he loves you, he will look back and he will call you someday, even he does not call, you still can move on and trust me, he will call, just be strong, be independent and keep the NC

I am in exactly same situation, the difference is we have business together and my ex does not do anything like "with another girl" to hurt me... we decided not to see each other for.. I dont know how long it takes... but that is my suggestion.... I am trying to NC him too and I will do it