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My ex boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago. We were constantly fighting when we're not together as in side by side,holding hands etc. But when we meet up and go out, we will always be loving and caring for each other. One day,he called another girl in front of me while we were having a webcam conversation on messenger. I got rather jealous and started calling a guyfriend. We both were having fun talking to our friends respectively. In fact, I was not happy because i have been giving in and taking full blames for the previous fights we had and he didn't really cared about my feelings,only his. Thus,i called him "ego". He blew off and got so mad that he didn't want to talk to me. I gave him time to chill himself and i spent the day reflecting on my mistakes and past actions. At night, he approached me on messenger and we talked normally. I knew he was hurt when i called him "ego" and i apologized. We talked things out and he managed to tell me his feelings in a harsh manner. I was extremely hurt because i tried my best to be a good girlfriend to him. Maybe he was venting his anger on me. But,he cooled down and he broke up with me calmly. He said i was too clingy and he needed space and time alone. He also told me that the breakup was for him to rebuild himself and for him to have a break. He said he would patch up with me after he's feeling much better. of course, i was devastated but i agreed with him. i tried to smile and stay happy to show him that I'm strong emotionally. So,we acted normal and fine. The next day, he approached me on messenger and we were fine and normal. We started talking like good friends. Everything was fine although i still was deeply hurt and heartbroken. On my blog, I wrote about him being the best boyfriend i had and that i appreciate his love and dedication and for being able to love him and hoping to be with him again when everything's better and more steady. I know he read my blog,well he always does daily. He tells me that, hahaha. For the past few days, I only sent him goodnight messages and i avoided texting him. And then, he'll approach me on messenger because I'm always online.
But two days ago,he told me he loves me while we were having a webcam conversation on messenger. you know, just the "iloveyou". I asked him if he has moved on,he said no. He asked me the same question and i replied no. I changed the topic and we started talking crap. I feel that he miss me but he doesn't really want to show it Also,I can see that he is quite worried that I'm not able to sleep nowadays.Well, i told him i couldn't sleep also because of the heartaches i've been having due to the breakup. Once, i wanted to go jogging at 5am and he was like "NO" because it's not safe for a girl to jog at a deserted area at that hour. He told me to lie down on my bed and he said "iloveyou" to me. I have this feeling that he still does love me or were those words just meant to relieve my heartache so that im able to sleep?
Just yesterday night, I was having yet again a webcam conversation on messenger with him. Then, one of his close friends called me up and we started talking on the phone, having fun. My ex sarcastically remarked that i was making him jealous on purpose which i was NOT because it was an unexpected call. Then he was like "go and have fun with my close friend. bye" I know him well because whenever he says like that to me, that would show that he's jealous. His close friend told me that my ex would only get jealous if he really likes the girl. I'm not surprised if he starts calling other girls now just to make me jealous. Rather immature right? I don't mind him calling other girls now, but I'll get jealous. Now,I'm able to control my actions when i get jealous.
Another friend of his copied and pasted a conversation they had about relationships on messenger and sent it to me. My ex knows that i want him back and he told his friend that he'll need his own space now and that time will tell if he would get back together with me. His friend asked him if he would go back to me or i go back to him. My ex replied that he would go back to me. The sad thing now is that my ex said that it'll be off a lesser chance of him getting back to me now. Well, because he said it's irritating? I'm giving him space and i only text him once every night and thats a goodnight message. And then he'll approach me on msn. Obviously, i dont have the heart to ignore him. I just want him back, what should i do? I know it takes time , but how do i increase the chances again? Does he still want me? Does he still love me? I'm confused
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Jewelman
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The word jealous comes up quite often. I think jealousy is normal when it comes being in a relationship but only a little amount of jealousy is okay. There's something that a lot of couples that don't understand this one word and that word is "trust". I think neither of you should ever feel jealous when you're talking to a mutual friend of an opposite sex. You're not truly in love with someone you don't trust. So you ask, does he love you? The answer is no if he doesn't trust you. He might enjoy your company at times but love is a whole different thing. And that's part of why you give someone space. That you trust they're always thinking of you even when you're not around them. I know when I'm in love, I always think of that person even when I'm not in contact. It lets you miss them.
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Vexrocker
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oh yes, trust. that's something i agree on. but now, how do i get him back?
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Jewelman
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Well, the problem between you two is the word trust and it seems like you two fight whenever that issue comes up. So what you should do is call him up leave him a message and "I have something important to say to you. Please call me back" and be mature about it. And if he does call you back, then you both need to discuss that he shouldn't be jealous just because his guy friend calls you. If he can't learn to trust you with someone he knows, your relationship isn't going to work out no matter what how you both feel.
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Vexrocker
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alright, but does he love me now? i meant like he doesn't really say it to me all the time you know.
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Well, I don't know if he loves you. That's something you'll find out when you spend enough time with him. I never believed in how many times someone tells you that they love you. Actions always speak louder than words. Does he do the things that makes you think he loves you? When you love someone, you always look out for the other's best interest and not their own.
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hmm,i agree. i've been given advices to not really contact him for now. i meant like i'll go missing in action from him for a short period of time and then out of the blue, talk to him again for a day. then repeat the same thing. they say that he'll miss me when he's not in contact with me.
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Well, people will miss you regardless. The thing with love is that when you're into someone, you don't stop thinking about person and they'll always pop up in your head. If he really loves you, you would hear from him eventually.
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Vexrocker
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just a few moments ago,he told me he miss me indirectly by asking me to help him solve this "i + oppossite of W + initial of ICE + twice the letter before T + 3/4 of X + 15th letter + 1/2 of U." i told him the answer that was "i miss you" and he said he knew the answer even before asking me. Yes,and keeps on approaching me like i said. i'm trying my best not to really contact him. Also, he did annoy me just now by telling me that his ex crush is hot and sexy. gah
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i have this relationship for 2 years now. we been together in one apartment. One morning someone texted hin at 5:00 a.m. I was so mad about this & told him probably he has another
girlfriend. He told me i'm getting paranoid. Then after this happened he wanted to break up with me & wants a space. He said we could still live in together but just like a companion. We can still be together but he wants to go out with his other friends & i don't need to say anything. I want this bf back to me. What sall i do?
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It's better to give space because he already sees you as being paranoid. He said that he wants to go out with his "friends" (maybe it was a "friend" who texted him at 5 a.m.), so you should see what happens before you try to get him back.
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