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Lately, I have been receiving a great deal of requests for advice from gentlemen seeking to restore a relationship with the women, whom they have destined as the love of their lives. It always fascinates me how much they desperately want them back after the damage has already been done. My purpose here is to provide some preventive medicine so that the trauma associated with heartbreak injuries can be alleviated and the relationship can continue to prosper.
I have several female friends whom have approached me on various relationship issues and here is the kicker…they are either married or have significant others in their lives. The complaints range from small, inattentive needs to major issues concerning romance. My first response to them was for these loving women to discuss any issues with their men. When this discussion stalemates or worse yet, is stonewalled by the men it could be viewed as a sign of unimportance and can leave an empty feeling for any woman, while making her vulnerable to seeking attention from others.
Here are some tips for men seeking to stabilize the relationship with that special lady:
1) Make date nights, at least twice a week, just the two of you and stick to it.
2) Be spontaneous and take weekend trips (this is where you really pour on the romance).
3) Handle her delicately as displayed through your body language, tone of voice, etc.
4) Tell her on a daily basis with your words and actions that you truly cherish her.
5) Let go of the ego fellas…this is supposed to be someone that you care about it.
6) Acts of chivalry should be a given (opening doors for her, serving her drink in a glass, not a can or bottle, holding her hand in a crowded room, etc.
7) Be unpredictable and present her with a small gift (flowers, card, dinner, glass of wine, etc.) You want her to know that the gift was a thought of her during your day.
These are just a few ideas of ways to reestablish, mend and rekindle that old flame. If you truly love her, you will make this aspect of your life a major priority while developing the close relationship that she desires. Now I am not saying you should take a back seat to confidence. By all means be that leader that stirs her attraction however she wants to be a part of that confidence too. She wants you to be able to stand proud with her as you would with any other accomplishment. Without a doubt, establishing a loving relationship takes effort but to love is a choice. If you love this person I’m sure you will make any necessary life changes to honor this relationship.
Here here, and girls, not to forget that the coin has 2 sides and its not a bad idea to listen to your man, and look for ways to pamper him and make him feel important and needed.
just to play devils advocate and not that im disagreeing with your post, but what if a certain guy isnt those? i mean what if he doesnt have the financial means to do lets say 1 and 2, or say he is the silent type so you could say he cant do 4, not out of ego but rather thats how he is already? or some other considerations?
i mean doesnt men and women want their partner to accept them for who they are completely? of course, if what he/she has to accept is just going to hurt the other person (lets say a guy has a tendency to beat up women or a women just loves to go sleeping around) then of course thats another story. :)
just wanna hear you point of view…again im not contradicting you. :)