I feel my love stopped loving me although he used to b crazy about me__pleaase reply I`m suffering

we`e been together since 7 years, he wants to marry me and my parents don`t approve of our marriage because his job and his family and also education are not compatible they thought i was way too much 4 him
At first I was young and I was afraid to show him all my feelings because i was very shy but soon enough he broke the ice and became so close to me ..I loved him sooo much
during this long period we had fights and i left him because i felt he doesn`t truly love me and i felt that he was cheating on me.. he always deny deny deny and i never believe him, he`s never jealous and although he is a poet (this is his job) he never wrote me even one poem!! although he is good with words,,
anyway every time i have a fight with him and leave him he doesn`t stop calling or messaging or even ringing at home and sometimes he calls a friend in order to make her tell me that he loves me and can`t live without me .. he sobs he cries he says i`m crying can`t live without u i`m dying
I surrender as i do believe him and i believe his promises but after a short while he breaks all his promises, he insults me, he beats me, he turns to a monaster, then he becomes in love but not the same person bec. he hurts me sooooooo i leave him again ...etc
Nowadays i started a new technique with him, he always says i`m jealous & i make him feel unhappy this time i decided not to leave him but stay and let him know how i feel,,, so i told him the whole situation honestly.. i told him you either not in love or you stopped loving me but he denied,, so i told him then why did u stop telling me everything or talking a lot and why do u feel unhappy when i`m around & he replied that i was imagining things ..
so i told him why don`t you feel that you`re sooo much in love unless i leave you???
and his reply was.. i`m unhappy with u but i love u !!

please advice me .. my parents almost agreed 2 our marriage ,, what should i do? i`m crying myself to sleep
this time i really unable to leave him i love him
does HE love me the same way?
i want to fix this relationship without losing him

You asked:

does HE love me the same way?

I think that you've answered it with:

he breaks all his promises, he insults me, he beats me, he turns to a monaster

Isn't it difficult to think of marrying someone who does those things to you?

i love him and i know it sounds so strange that i love although he hurts me but he`s not always like that
sometimes he`s very very very tender and he surprises me with nice things,, he is not always that monster but when he turns to one it becomes difficult to go on
i can`t move on i can`t forget him
every time i left him i suffered as much as him
please tell me .. is it wrong to hide my feelings of love and passion.. maybe it`s my fault, i want to fix our relationship i can`t just forget him and move on
he means EVERYTHING to me and i know i mean the same to him, but there`s some mistakes that all humans do, maybe we can fix this maybe there`s a solution maybe if i showed him more love he`ll always be the same and won`t change
my parents always teach me that revealing all my feelings to someone is not really a right thing to do, because in their opinion it`s considered weakness
please tell me what to do
i know i sound like a victim here but this is not the whole story, i`m always jealous i fight with him ALL the time i tried to stop doing it but i can`t help it
advice me

He already knows your feelings; It is not about whether you show them or not. The problem is that he said that he is not happy with you. You can ask him what to do and talk to him to reach a decision, but he has already shown that believing him just gets you hurt.

my parents approved of our marriage today but didn`t seem so happy for that !
although he wanted everything to happen so fast
he didn`t say a word about our engagement
his phone calls are cold and short
i said what`s wrong but he didn`t say anything
i`m suffering i`m hurt i don`t know what to do
i`m crying i`m sad
plz i want u to answer this question as a normal man:
if u loved a girl so much for 7 years and you`ve never been able to live without her and if she left u for one week and didn`t return your calls you feel terrible and cry like a baby then everything went well and her parents approved of your marriage ..what would you do?
why did he change so much?

advise me plz did he suddenly stop loving me?

If he stopped loving you, it was not sudden. You should postpone marriage until these issues are fixed because I don't see why he would change his mind once you two actually marry. As for your question, I will say that I don't think that he loved you as much as you think he did because he said that he is unhappy with you, so it's strange to think of being in love without being happy. It sounds like he is unhappy with you and without you.

after my parent`s approval he didn`t seem so happy but the next day he called every 15 minutes and he was supposed to do some work but he cancelled it and insisted on starting to prepare some papers concerning our engagement,, he wants everything to happen so fast and he was sooooooooooo happy and so delighted
but what makes me confused is what happened to day.. since his best friend`s wedding is tomorrow i`m supposed to go with him but he told me that i`ll have to get my father`s approval first because,in his opinion, my father finally agreed and we don`t want him to catch us doing anything behind his back right now for he will cancel everything if this happened
although for all these years we used to talk on the phone and meet without telling my father of anything!
so i`m still confused does he love me?
am i so stupid to believe that he wants me to go with him but he doesn`t want to make trouble and that`s why i can`t go?
please you`re a man and maybe you can tell me the probabilities
is he afraid of my getting jealous infront of people?
maybe he doesn`t need me desperately in his life anymore?
do i make any difference? is he lying?
is he cheating?
i`m so confused

by the way i finished the conversation by telling him that won`t say anything to anybody because i don`t believe he wants me to go with him in the first place
and that i`m not going to attend that wedding.

Don't rush with the engagement. It sounds more like he is looking for someone to marry quickly than actual interest in you.

it sounds so humiliating to me
because all those years i always break up with him and ask him to try seeing another girl, so if that was the case then why did he always reply that he could never ever be interested in any other girl, he always tells me that he never thought of getting married or falling in love until he met me! i`m his first love and that i`m the most beautiful girl he has ever seen and he`s still saying these words till NOW! do u think that these are just words?
i can`t postpone anything because my parents approved and we`re supposed to be engaged next sunday
to tell you the truth i`m confused if i thought of postponing then i should have a reasonable reason and a proof because i tried talking to him but he doesn`t want to listen to these DOUBTS, in his opinion, he got angry bec. after all those years i still doubt his love & fidelity this is on one hand,
on the other hand my parents, i don`t know what to say
to them

if i postponed i`ll definitely lose him FOREVER
because if he agreed to this my parents won`t

it`s complicated
i need a reply
read the previous details please coz they`ll help you imagine the whole situation

what i do really need right now is something even more than a reply... a trick
if he`s not in love with me then i`ll have to find out someway & this has to happen quickly but HOW????

please help me i`m so scared
after 6 months from now he`ll be my husband
i so scared
is he telling me that he loves me just to marry me but he`s not?
because if this was true i`ll die i can`t imagine my life with a man that`s not in love with ME

Is he acting like he loves you or not?
I'm not talking about what he says because anyone can say those words.
What is he doing that shows he loves or does not love you?

I also think it's strange for him to insult and beat someone he supposedly loves, because I don't think that you would do that. Can you be sure that he won't do those things to you again?

no i can`t be sure,but i can`t leave him now

he`s not saying those words to make me feel good nooo
because sometimes we talk in the morning and the first thing he says to me is that he sees me every night in his dreams and he if your point of view is true and he doesnt love me and those are just some lies then maybe he really is cheating on me
you`re frightening me even more and more
i can`t think
i`m paralyzed

Yes, but that's talking. I asked what he is doing besides talking to show what he thinks of you.

he did a lot
1st: he came over to my house in order to meet me and my father kicked him out

2nd: he sent me a priest to tell me that he`s dying without me and i told him that i can`t go on and that my father is totally against him and the priest phoned him infront of me to tell him my reply but He said NO i`ll have to listen to this by my own ears let her say that she doesn`t love me... so i said infront of my parents to him (i`m not in love with you anymore)

3rd: when we fought last time he came to my work and although he wasn`t sure of the exact street he kept waiting for me till he saw me on the street and gave me flowers and cried till i felt his heart was going out of its place

4th: he never left me... i always leave him and break his heart

5th: he accepts my family`s bad treatment to him because i mean a lot to him

do u still think he never loved me?
do u think he changed?

Those sound like good things, but then why did he say that he was unhappy with you? Maybe he changed, but I am concerned that he may hurt you again.

maybe the reason is that i don`t trust him?
my jealousy my doubts.. i`m not sure
anyway i`m scared

all those nice things and ( many other things that i don`t have the time to mention ) happen only when i`m out of his life but once i`m with him he doesn`t care about me

to tell you the truth i`m not happy because i`m scared

i left him once before just in order to feel his love again all his emotions appear when i disappear from his life

Tell me if I understand this:
1. He is nice to you.
2. You go to him.
3. He doesn't care.
4. You leave.
5. Repeat steps one to four.

Is that correct?

& what makes me more confused and scared is that being always in his life will definitely mean a lack of emotions and an indifference from his side

i told him many times before to stop acting like: "i`m glad you`re here & everything is ok as long as you`re with me so i don`t have to worry about losing you"

so what`s your advice?

Yes yes yes correct

being always in his life will definitely mean a lack of emotions and an indifference from his side

That sounds like a good reason to not marry him because if you marry him, you will be around him alwaays.

the problem is that i want to be always with him
but i want him to be always the same person

and i need to know the reason of that change in him that usually happens

I don't know why you are marrying him when he doesn't care about you once you are with him. It almost seems that he likes you more when he is away from you.

because i love him and he used to be my best friend
but the last couple of days were so strange
he`s almost avoiding any serious conversation with me

if i left him now he`ll come over & say i love you & my life is like hell without you.. & sooner or later i`ll be back with him & he`ll neglect me again

So you already know he's going to neglect you even though you love him. That doesn't sound like a marriage!

Do u have any idea how hard it is to lose the love of your life FOREVER?
I left him before because I was sure he`ll after a while be back but now it`s different..

If my parents found out that i`m leaving him after their approval then it`s over forever & there are no more chances

But i still believe he i could change him because he loves me but what really matters is :
Why does he change?
& how to change HIM? even a little bit & even if it`ll take some time

Regarding the above:

1. He is nice to you.
2. You go to him.
3. He doesn't care.
4. You leave.
5. Repeat steps one to four.

How long has this cycle been happening to you?

7 years

Do you really think that he'll change after doing the same thing for seven years?

i don`t know