I get mixed feelings from a woman I love to death.... go figure

I was with a gal for three years and our first year I really didn’t show her how I felt for her because I didn’t know myself and she was head over heels for me and I didn’t see it.

After a year she broke up with me for a short while and I was able to convince her to give it another try. I learned a lot from that experience but not enough.

We then dated for another year and a half with ups and downs and she broke it off again for about a month and she said she was done.

We then kind of got back together for 5 months and had a great time for the most part because we had our lease to fulfill and that just ended a month ago. We then moved into our different places.

At first I met a gal and we dated for a bit but now all I can think about is my ex and really want to work it out with her. Most of the time when we are together we have a great time, but other times could be stressful.

One of the biggest problems in our relationship I fee is that I travel a lot for my job and out of town week days but almost always made it home Thursday night or Friday and leave on Monday again. I was let go from that job about 7 months ago and found a new one paying the same but now gone over the weekends a lot and its hard and I hate it.

I am so done with the traveling gig and now am looking for a job where I’m home every night and can have structure rather than living out of a suit case basically and everything is rush rush because im home for such a short time. I also have 2 daughters from a 5 year relationship and I have them every other weekend and they are 6 and 8 and love her to death.

She says no and she is done and doesn’t think anything will ever work out in the future with us. I will totally respect that but I’m curious that over time if feelings could change and if anyone has ever had anything remotely close to this and how it ended up.

We went out the other night and had a blast. A couple times I have asked her to take me back and got emotional about it and that is so unattractive. I now am not going to initiate communication with her unless she gets in touch with me.

Any hope or just give up? This weekend I’m going out on a date but it feels weird having such strong feelings for someone else, I have never cheated on a girlfriend before and I kind of feel I am even though I’m not.

Should I just give up and move on? My gut tells me no and to try one last time. I know I will be making some changes that will make my life a lot easier and stable.

Well, you're doing all right. Do your own thing because she can contact you if she wants. Let the both of you clear your minds while trying being separate for a change.

I agree! after you asking her to come back and she has said no... well if i were you, i would not contact her.... let her feel the loss of you in her life... at the moment, she thinks you will be there and you haven't moved on. When you go out together, dont say anything along the lines of getting back together, this will only give her the power in this situation. play it cool and see what happens... but one thing you cant do is put your life on hold. At some point- you will need to let go and let fate take over. Good Luck!

it looks like u are caught up in a situation you don't want to be in... and i know how hard it is to let go of someone you really love, its obvious that she don't feel the same about you like you feel for her, its clear that she loves u still but but as in relationship terms.. she enjoys your company and have great time with you, but that's as far as it goes and anything you say won;t change her mind,

you try dating others and yet she still runs in your mind.. u need to let it go, its good you date others, you should also try getting closer to them,maybe then u will feel the love from them that she doesn't have to you anymore..by then she will she will be insignificant in your mind and life,

but gotta admit that now and then you will think about her but when that happens try thinking of something else or someone else, do not keep close connection with her,if u do you will only feel attached again which really isn't there,u don't have to stop being friends with her but if u do go out with her again.. don't talk about the "us" statement and getting back.. show her that u have moved on..and its OK..don't make her feel that she is the only one you've got while u are out with her, instead try talking to others or flirt with them.. if u know how to use reverse psychology, this would come in very handy... all in all u really have to move on... don't always listen to your about staying.. because feelings do lie at times.. u gotta be smart and face reality.. move on.... life continues...... maybe all this has happen so something better can come into Ur life....
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