I had a short lived romance awhile ago. We met through a fri...

I had a short lived romance awhile ago. We met through a friend and started dating after a few meetings. He opened doors, brought me a flower, etc. After a few days, some serious things happened in my life and wasn't as outgoing or talkative..I was really quiet around him and not myself. He stopped asking me on dates. I asked him to hang out and he said "we'll see" and I didn't hear from him again.

Even though I could not stop thinking about him I did not contact him-I was not at a time in my life to pursue a relationship. I felt like I knew him inside and out...and felt ridiculous emotions that scared me...either my body was freaking out from the most absurd chemical reactions, or I somehow sensed he may be a murderer . Those kind.

Anyyway. I hadn't talked to him for several months. Neither one of us were in the same state--he was in Florida and I New Orleans (we're from the midwest).
He continually texted me one night, around midnight. He was obviously drunk. He was saying that he still wanted to be friends, maybe something more etc etc. He was saying that he keeps thinking about me blah blah. Then some unreadable texts and the texting stopped (perhaps blackout?). I didn't pursue it as I had started seeing someone at that time and was conflicted notheless because I in a sense wanted to be with him and see where things would go.

I didn't hear from him again until two months later. (Perhaps he should watch his drinking?) but I woke up the other morning (at my boyfriends) and I had several missed calls from this man. He also left a voicemail saying, "hey Amy, it's mark. I'd like to talk to you..blah blah (drunkenness)." I wasn't sure what to make of it. I really care about my boyfriend, he is great. I have tried to push this other man out of my mind but it's so hard.

Why would he call things off and then call and text me after he's been drinking, even though he wasn't even in the same state as me? Is he just a big jerk?

It sounds like things were good in the beginning with this guy, and that's what you loved about him. However, it also sounds like he wasn't there for you when you were going through a rough time. Someone who really loves you will try to comfort you through hard times and will be there for you. But he didn't comfort you, did he? You said he stopped asking you out and you didn't hear from him again. That is not someone you need in your life. He wasn't even a friend.

True Friends are there for you when the going gets tough. I know, the same thing happened to me. My ex bf was not there for me when I was dealing with something seriously stressful. All he seemed to see was that I wasn't the fun person who worshiped the ground he walked on..."your eyes don't sparkle when you look at me anymore"...of course my eyes weren't sparkling, I was going through hell! It wasn't about him.

Stay away from the alcoholic. Alcoholism leads to unhappiness on every level. Be glad you escaped this one and do not contact him any further. You can't win with alcoholism. If he were to get better, he has to do the work himself, and there's no guarantee that he will do that work. No one else can change him or make him stop drinking.

Why would you even give him any of your energy when you are in another relationship now? Don't you care about your present boyfriend? If you cannot be faithful, then you shouldn't be in a relationship.

Why did you sense that your ex is a murderer? More importantly, if you felt that or thought that, then why would you still want to entertain the idea of being with him? Are you just about drama? You shouldn't say such things without any proof other than your feelings anyway...it's totally unfair to him and borderline slander.

If you really care about your present boyfriend like you say you do, then just delete the ex's texts and put your focus on your present boyfriend, where it belongs. Quit letting selfish ego run your emotions...it will only lead to heartbreak. How would you feel if your boyfriend were entertaining an ex girlfriend that way? Get real. The ex bf has a drinking problem...that's reason enough to stay away from him.