I have been dating this guy for 2 weeks. Things were going g...

I have been dating this guy for 2 weeks. Things were going good then today he tells me that his ex-wife called and aprently she didn't do her part for the divorce so they are not actully divorced and now he is scared she can us our relationship aginst him. He started the divorce a year ago and paid his money that he was supose 2 pay. it would seem that she didnt or didnt signe some papers. He had 2 work today so i've not actully gotten everything out of him yet and i need some advice. Is there anything she can because we are seeing each other. I'm only 20 and he's 21...i've never had 2 deal with this befor. I care about him a lot he is the sweets and caring guy ever....he is saying for us just to be friends untill its over cause he dont want her to use me aginst him and he dosnt want me having to go though all the dram becasue of this. i want to be with him though and i all ways though when your in a realtionship then you stick by that person though the good and the bad no matter what as long as you both want 2 be toghather.

He might be right on this. Divorce can be a ugly thing and his ex-wife could use you against him. But considering he's only 21 and he's already filing for divorce, you should always tread carefully of your relationship with him. There's a good reason why over 90% of marriages under age 21 end up in divorce. Just take it easy and don't rush things with him.

Thankes its just so hard right now. It seems since he told me other pepole are trying to get involved with our relationship and trying to start stupied drama with me and him. Me and him talked and we going to stay togather we just going to keep things low right now just hanging out and stuff but i'm just so tired of everyone else thinking they need 2 be right under us and starting stuff with us when things are wobbly as it is cause of his ex-wife and all.

Also watch tinkerbell because you have ONLY been dating him for two weeks and the way you are presenting this you shouldn't even be this involved after two weeks. It should still be at going out for a few hours on a date for the weekend.

When I see "excuses" such as this it makes me wonder if it isn't a hint of truth to mask and use so that you don't get so serious so soon.

I would really lighten up and I really question if that isn't it especially when I see a two week relationship that is already "so hard".

we only hang out on the weekends....we dont get 2 hang out during the week cause we both have responsabitlys during the week...i help my mom out with my brother and step brothers and he works....we text or talk on the pone during the week and see each other on the weekends.....we talked for about a month in half befor we started dating

Thats okay, thats great, you are doing good then.
I just read and it sounded like you were way too concerned for such a new relationship.

I could be wrong but I will use the word too attached, perhaps, give it too much merrit?

Perhaps he is picking up on that if I have and he is a bit worried about that too?

Not a lot to go on.

If he is giving any reason just accept it though and work with him and keep life filled up with other possibilites and such..best thing is to ease up when someone else is worried and its at that stage that if they are meant to come back...they will appreciate it and will.

you were right i was to concerend about things and got way to emotional we broke up after about 2 months of dating...the last month he got to wear he didnt want to hang out with me and he started lieing about a lot of stuff like why he could't get a job and stuff....he ex-wife found me on myspace and worned me about him but i didnt listen.......looking back on the relatinship i relized i jumped into it......i got with him the next day after my boyfriend of 9 monthes that i loved more than anything else in the world and he was my first dumped me.....i think i was trying to fill that empty place that was there i didnt want 2 be alone cause there was a big whole in my heart and even with him if was still there....i lied to myself and a lot of my friends saying that kipp was who i wanted but now that i look back my ex befor him was who i really wanted......we finally sat down and talked about things and got back togather......i think i'm doing better i dont freak out when we dont see each other like we used to.....we give each other space and i can tell he's changed a lot and its for the better....he got a new car a really good job and he says he's fixing 2 find a house......he wants us to get married in about a year and to have kids......i know i may be a little young for all that to some people but thats what i want is to be young not to young but young when i have kids i dont want to be all most 30 when i have them......i am older than what my mom was when she had me......i love kids and i love him and glade we worked things out and got back togather

Well Tink...thats the problem with being a fad master.

You see...in the beginning of a relationship, especially a young one...it's practically EXPECTED that you act all crazy and emotional because its a new relationship and we have to over do it to prove ourselves.

Then......
What Peterpan and our mom never taught us.
Funny enough, you are suppose to know when to stop that crisis hype.

You have to start acting like a lady. Ooooops!

There is no magic formula.
You have to over do it and then chill.
Audrey Hepburn movies...Breakfast at Tiffany's.

Sorry girl, I was Tinkerbell for a lot of years.
Ate my cake believing "why should I go without?" too.

Glad you were able to "stop lying to yourself" make the connection and the real connection.

And the most important lesson of all.

We sometimes go to our friends...if not "mom" and they give "wellwisher advice". Feel free to vent to friends and talk, but go home and think for yourself.

You have some ordinary habits called clucking and brainwashed...but stop lying to myself cures that.

Freaking makes life exciting, but there is a time and a place and unfortunately...only Peter Pan gets to be exciting after the first week and you get to sit there and giggle and admire him.

Just live it learn it know it.....

I love Tinkerbell too but ever notice she never does end up with Peterpan. How insulting. There is no reason there is no reason there is no reason.

But thats the way it is.
Tinkerbells are not Audrey Hepburns.