I met a wonderful guy about 8 months ago. He had been divorc...

I met a wonderful guy about 8 months ago. He had been divorced for about 5 months. He swept me off my feet and made me feel like I was the only woman in the world. 6 months into the relationship, he stops talking to me--nothing. No calls, texts, emails. Just cold turkey. Of course, I went a little crazy with the texts. He finally emailed me and said he didn't want to be in a serious relationship and by staying with me, he would keep us both from meeting other people. I knew tha he still cared about me and had cold feet. We were cruising along and then one day he realized-- hey, wait! I'm in a relationship. I didn't want to be in a relationship. We stayed broken up for a few weeks. He started calling again, we started hanging out. Everything was going great. He went on a trip to Spain, but before he left we went out together and he told me that he loved me for the first time. He emailed me every day, sent me pics and told me he missed me while he was on his trip. He came home and called me. He sounded fine. I didn't hear from him for a few days and I thought it was because he had to get caught up at work or had his kids. I finally texted him and asked him what was wrong. He told me that he was in NY (this story was legit) on business and he would call me when he got back. I jokingly texted, "What? You don't like me anymore?" He didn't answer. I texted "I care about you very much. I want you to tell me what's wrong even if it will hurt me. Is it someone else?" He answered "its someone else". Since then, he has told me I did nothing wrong. He said he cares about me, wants nothign but the best for me, and hopes we can be friends. HOWEVER, I have spoken to his best friend of 30 years who was just as shocked as me about all of this and he thinks he's lying. He thinks he does care about me and got freaked out again. Could it be that he just wants to be single and doesn't want to hurt me? His friend says I'm the kind of girl you marry not the kind you use. He said he's actually doing me a favor because he's letting me go. I love him. What do you think?

Try to not contact him because it seems like he's avoiding you. Whether or not he is actually seeing anyone, that's what he wanted you to think, so for him to go that far means that he doesn't want to date you at the moment. I'd say some of that is backlash from the divorce.