I want my ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago back...

Ok so when I was in Middle School I had a boyfriend for 2 years (that I was crazy in love with) and I wrote him a letter about sex (bc I didn't understand it then) and his mother found out and so she made us break up. Well now I'm graduating from college soon and I'm in a serious relationship. But for the past 2 years I've been thinking about my MS boyfriend almost every day. I dream about him often. He's also in a serious relationship and we're not really friends anymore (b/c I dated his best friend in high school) so I never talk to him. But I still love him and want to be with him. What do I do? How do I win his heart back? Please help me.

How are you in a "serious relationship" when you have someone else in mind?

Well serious as in I live with him (and have for almost a year now) and I care about him but don't think he's "the one".

do you have a way to contact him? if you do then you could talk to him and ask him how he is doing and build up a friendship with him

I would love to be with him. Supposedly he has a great relationship with his girlfriend 8 years his senior. I'm planning on moving back to my home town soon and he still lives there, so I will be able to contact him. We have some bad history bc of my ex-boyfriend that was his best friend, so I find it hard to start up a friendship. The reason I posted my story is bc I have no idea where to start or how. I would love to be friends with him again and get to know one another to know if we are still compatible...What should I o?

You could call him and see if he's still interested in talking about what both of you have done since middle school. However, the bad history is something to keep in mind, not to mention his girlfriend and your boyfriend.

hmm yeah the bad history and the feelings of 3 people are at steak here. do you think he would be willing to forget about the situation with his friend and be willing to start over with you? as friends of course

graduatingsoon wrote:
[quote]Supposedly he has a great relationship with his girlfriend 8 years his senior.quote]

The keywords here are he has a great relationship. You have no right to interfere with his life now. Not only do you want to ruin your ex bfs current relationship, but you are leading on your current partner. If he isnt the one, stop wasting his time and tell him that.

You are an incredibly selfish person. You need to move on with your life.

All I want to know is how would someone go about getting someone back from that long ago... Please don't judge me and say rude things about me. You don't know me or my life. And for the people who are helping me I want to say thank you.

no! you cant call and talk about middleschool? wtf!? you are trying to ruin his current relationship?! That is so not cool?!

so if u want him back try find out his number from someone then say i am still in love wid u i need u back and if he says yeah then dump your other boyfriend just say to him i am not in love wid u any more i am in love wid someone else or just lie say i havnt got time for a boyfriend cause i am to busy so i am saying we are gonna have to break up then act as u are up set. right that is all the avice i can help u wid

I think the best thing to do is get back in touch with him. Just to see if you can just be friends. Don't try and break up his relationship be patient and mature prove to him that you can be a good friend again.

I'm in a similar situation with an ex boyfriend that I haven't seen for seven years. We recently got back in touch and met up for coffee. He has a girlfriend but we are seeing each other quite regularly as friends. I guess we will see how things go and if not it great just to have an old friend back. So I definitely recommend getting back in touch.

All you're going to accomplish is to put a whole lot of drama into both your lives that you would probably be better off without. I just want to ask you this: Do you expect other people to respect your relationships? You know he's already with someone, so why aren't you respecting his? Do you think it's right for you to try to interject yourself into the middle of a couple because you're feeling a bit lovelorn? Do you really think the woman he is with is just going to let you swoop down and take her man? As long as he has someone else, you shouldn't rock the boat for him. Date other people. You might find someone else you like better.

I'm going to have to agree with everyone else. If you love him, and he seems happy, then be happy that he is happy and do what you can to make yourself happy. The fact that you are in a relationship where you have lived with someone for 1 entire year should be enough to tell you that you have found someone you can be happy with...work at it a little.

I feel like hollywood has put all this BS in girls heads about finding "the perfect match". There is no perfect match, relationships are what you make of them.

Ah I'm also sorry to agree with the rest. You're not being fair to the guy you are with. Your not being fair with you ms sweetheart. This is cute that you still think of him. But imagine the roles were reversed? And you went on your boyfriends computer and saw that es trying to reconnect with a girl from rhat long ago bc he still loves her?? Not to mention the guy from the past. Imagine you're in a great. Long term relationship and then here comes sweet Susie blast from
the past to ruin it all bc she missed her chance??? Think of others somtimes.... This one ur gonna have to let go

What people do not understand is..you cant put your feeling aside all the time to spare someone elses. Why should she hurt herself and not find out what may be? Love does not always fall in your lap, it really takes work. He is not married nor is she. I suggest you make contact and be patient, very patient, and caring. Do not scare him by being pushy. It will happen naturally and it is important to let it. No demands or threats. Understand your mistakes and prove to him you are a great woman. Be his friend first if possible and move slow. If you want him I say go for it and try. But you have to be smart. Never mention the girlfriend or talk bad about her because that will just make you look insecure. You are young and again...not married...do not let people tell you it is wrong because it is not. I would def not go around trying to steal everyones boyfriend but I think there are certain exceptions. You have to be a great woman to him yet still remain strong and have your limitations.

I don't think u can win a person over. He either loves u and the feelings exist or they don't.what u should do is contact him and see how he reacts and let him know how u feel.I am a guy in the same situation. Its been about ten years and I miss my first love like its been one week. I don't buy into the fact that people say it goes away. I don't think it does...but u can still get on with ur life especfially if u try and are fianlly rejected or accepted by him