i want the love of my life back the father of my child PLEASE take time to read and respond

please read this i cant sleep, eat, im always thinking about him, and im so derpressed!! We were together for over 2 years and the relationship was awesome.. when i became pregnant i became very emotional and kind of bitchy.. i didnt mean to and i didnt mean to hurt him like i did.. he broke up with me becuz he said he cant stand the fighting anymore and he needs time to be single and think about what he really wants. he says he still loves me and always will but he cant take coming home and fighting anymore.. we have been seperated for 3 weeks today and i try to look for information on the internet and alls it keeps telling me is i need to stop talking to him or its telling me that i need to give up its over.. im not ok with any of that.. i try no to talk to him but i have too it just makes me feel better when i get that text message of call from him regarding our son or not.. i went and got help for the way i was acting and i can honestly say that i am not a bitch anymore and i feel good other than that we are not together.. he is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with and i want to know how i can get him back NOW!!! please if anyone has anything to say to help me i would greatly appreciate it!!

well, you can't make someone change the way they feel. it seems like he wants to move on and start a new life. unless the things you argue about are things that can be fixed, it's unfortunately over. he shouldn't be texting you or calling you anymore if he really loved you because that will just make things worse before it will ever get better. i know you have a son together and that just makes things harder but you have to care for your child before him. It's like a drug addiction when you keep contacting him. It takes a while to recover and it's usually hard. There are lots of people on this website dealing with that and it does get better.. only time will heal. The faster you want you want to feel better, the faster it will happen.

Well, first and formost I should highlight never get your hopes up to the point you will become a wreck. The best honesty to give is no one knows what will happen in time. It's a natural thing to go on with your life, but I would never give the advice to cut them loose. If you have faith on any notion there is a possibility of a rekindling, there is no wrong in doing so, giving the respect and space to the other person who had stepped out of your life. Yes, it is hard, but step away and keep the distance without having the resentment or needing to let go 100% People tend to forget it when they are not in that initial situation it is easier to say "get over it" That attitude devaluates the reasons why the relation began in the first place. And all relationships are different and end differently. Besides if he still reasons why he is not back with you because of the possibility of arguements, he has not necessarily gone on with his life also. One thing, never keep bringing up the why's, that does not help the situation. You too should respect the fact is there is a reason why you two still spend time other than using the child excuse.

I am in the same situation. He too tells me that he needs time to be by himself right now and everywhere I go to try and ease the heart break it tells me to leave him alone. I am scared that if I do that he will think I am over him and he too will move on. The only thing that keeps me going in a day is the hope that he will realize we are meant to be and come back home. So if you find an answer to this I would too like to know what to do. Right now I have just been leaving him alone and letting time tell what is going to happen, but it's a crazy emotional roller coaster. Also if you have friends surrond yourself with them as much as you can. They will help you be strong and get through this.....I don't know what I would have done without my friends. This website is also good because you have people to talk to that know exactly how you are feeling right now because we are all going through the same thing........broken hearts!!

No one is telling you to forget about them COMPLETELY but for the moment when he is already in another relationship, you can't be friends with him because you're too miserable at the time being. Some exes can remain friends.. some can't. It depends on what happened in the relationship and what you can get over. Maybe one day, you'll be back together.. maybe you won't but at the time being so you won't be hurt 24/7, that's when you need to stay away.

Relationships are so hard to give opinons on because each one is unique and different. You know this man better then ANY of us, so you must have a feeling deep-down of what will happen.

Give him some space and time, and honestly let life play out as it should. I agree with CanGuy.. people are too often on this site saying "get over it.. it sounds like he isn't coming back.." etc.
I know being in a situation where I got dumped that this type of feedback does not help at all, until a person is willing to believe it themselves. In fact I find this advise just pushes me further into a depression because a hope makes people get through the day. Even if its a wrong hope.. its better then feeling completely defeated.

I digress.

Giving him space and time seems to be what everyone on this site recommends. So many people have only furthered their issues by constantly contacting the guy/begging him to come back/etc.
So I think you should be the cool, mature adult and let things play out as they will.

as you mentioned, not talking to him is a bit too hard - so maybe keep in contact with him but only about your child. Don't mention anything about how you feel/the relationship as it will only put more pressure on him.

Best of luck!

I did tey as well with my sons' dad and now he is done with me and our son,and i see now he did not change,and my heart hurts so much all over again,but i now need to live my life for only my little boy. and i will be ok but me and my sons' dad oh no am done.