I'm in love with my best friend and I told her the wrong way and she won't speak to me anymore

I became very good friends with a woman who was dating another friend. Eventually she became my best friend, and she had told me I was becoming her best friend and couldn't picture her life without me. After some time had passed and we spent a lot of time together I began to fall in love with her. I told her that I was falling in love with her (in a not so intelligent way)I have now lost a good friend (her girlfriend...fyi, she's not gay, or claims to not be gay, this is her first experience, and told me it disgusted her at times, was confused and didn't know what she was doing...) and I've lost her, I've tried to tell her that it was a difficult situation that I didn't know how to deal with, and I was really falling in love with her (I said some really stupid things to her when she said she didn't know, and was becoming depressed and more confused than ever) I've tried to apologize but I think my apologies are falling on deaf ears. She tried to talk to me a few times, but I was dismissive and know that was a mistake, she no longer speaks to me, and ignores me when I try to apologize. I absolutley hate what's going on and I miss her tremendously and I have no idea what to do....I just know that I still love her, and miss her...I am so lost an upset

Why are you apologizing?

I tried to apologize for some of things I had said to her when she stopped talking to me. I was pissed off that she stopped talking to me, it really made think our friendship didn't mean anything to her, felt a little used, and I said some very stupid and mean things that I really shouldn't have.

If she is as confused as you say, then you may have added to that by saying a mixture of things. She's probably trying to understand what you meant as well as figuring what she wants.

I a friend what had happened and i guess the rumor mill did its job, (not what i wanted to happen) I told a mutual friend I had fallen in love with her. I think it has now blossomed into something more (friends thinking more happened than it did, but i only told one person that i was falling in love with my friend, i think they elaborated) anyway now she is pissed off for saying anything. I told that person that I was upset the way things were and thought that some things "my friend" had said to me made me believe my feelings were not a one way street (still feel that way) her ex, my friend, wants to talk, and i told (her her now ex) what had happened, thought telling her the truth was best, never got into specifics about what my love interest had said. Now the girl I was in love with sends me a pissed off e-mail more or less denying things, and seems pissed off...I want to ignore both of them, I don't think either friendship is worth the trouble, but I still love her so I really don't want to let go.........

Leave the situation alone while the gossip cools. Getting involved now would only make things worse.