Getting Back

Jumping in without reading the answers here D:

The 'I don't know what I want' and the 'possible future together' are methods to keep you hanging and your hope. She won't let go until she has another plan. Which Can involve another party in the relationship another man.

'I don't know what I want' = 'I know what I want and its not you' is alot of it in many cases, but they need the backup to rely upon, that back up is You.

Sounds harsh but we men like having more than one girl in reserve alot of the time, I know I do.

Of course she does need the space and she does have some feelings for you still, she could of emotionally checked out a while ago but 5 years is a long long time tbh.

Go no contact and follow the really good advice on this board. Good luck.

First of all you have to decide on what you want. Whether it be you want to get back with each other or not. Regardless of this you have to know that this person does not want to be with you right at this moment so my suggestion would be to just pack up and leave and at the very least cut off contact with that person for at least 2 weeks then decide what you want from there. it pains me to see that all ex partners seem to do this which is give false hope to the person they broke up with which keeps that person in a state where one day they might eventually come bak and things will go back to how they were. but in all honesty thats for the fairy tale book. I think right now you should forget about her for now and constantly tell yourself its over once you get it into your mind that its over you can start to move on and not think about if she will come back or not. think about yourself for a while and find yourself too. even though the person says its not your fault, it is. beacuse if it wasnt then that person would be with you. hope i have helped in somehwat

Hi, I think I can somewhat relate to your situation. My (ex) boyfriend is now going through the same phase. We're both expats abroad and he hasn't really settled with the new expat lifestyle because we met when he was still very new in the country. Our relationship was intense and it was great in all aspects.

Anyway, just a couple of weeks back, he tells me he wants to be alone and find himself in this different lifestyle. Basically he wants to build new friendships and have experiences on his own. I know it's difficult for you as it was really difficult for me since we're both living in the same city, but really there's not much you can do. Just leave it be and hope for the best. Maybe you'll meet someone better, maybe you won't. Although, it's best for you to just leave things be. Who knows what will happen next. Maybe she'll come back, maybe she won't, but that's just life, isn't it?

My girlfriend and i were going out for about 6 months and we clicked instantly like me and her hung out all the time and we were with each other all the time. She is leaving for college in two months and she told me that she needs to start over when she goes to college and i continue to text her wanting her back but she keeps telling me it's done. She still tells me she loves me and told me i did nothing wrong. Like what i don't get is like if you loved me we could try and make it work but she does not even want to try. Like i am devastated right now and it sucks cse we both are in love. She tells me that maybe we will end up together in the future and i am a big recruit for football and i do not want to be used and i really do love he and the time we spent to together was amazing. If you anyone has any advice that wld be great

My girlfriend and i were going out for about 6 months and we clicked instantly like me and her hung out all the time and we were with each other all the time. She is leaving for college in two months and she told me that she needs to start over when she goes to college and i continue to text her wanting her back but she keeps telling me it's done. She still tells me she loves me and told me i did nothing wrong. Like what i don't get is like if you loved me we could try and make it work but she does not even want to try. Like i am devastated right now and it sucks cse we both are in love. She tells me that maybe we will end up together in the future and i am a big recruit for football and i do not want to be used and i really do love he and the time we spent to together was amazing. If you anyone has any advice that wld be great

having the same problem here, i think i made a big mistake cause this is my first break up with my one true love, after we broke up i kept on calling her and texting and stuff and then she got sick of it. i dont know if i have that chance now. after reading all these comments i realise now that i shouldnt of called her and stuff. just wondering if there is still hope after my mistakes? she just wanted to be independent btw, she said she aint gona date other dudes she just wants to do her and what she wants to do without worrying about anyone, and hang out with her friends and stuff like that.