Its been over a month, what should i do?

IF U LOVE HER, U WONT CARE ABOUT NE THING THATS HAPPENED OR HAPPENS. FIND A WAY TO MAKE HER HAPPY AGAIN N LET HER DECIDE ON HER WAT SHE WANTS FOR HERSELF, GL

you're not supposed to get it, forget about it. it's irrelevant. if you let that linger in ur head its going to be the death of you and her. understand what her needs are and fulsill them, otherwise she wont want you. no matter how much she loves you, she's a female... they can hold themselves better than most men. she has respect for herself.

it doesnt seem like she even want to talk to me though. I dont know if thats her way of trying tog et over things, eliminate contact...you know, out of sight out of mind. Im feel like the dates she went on were just to help her move forward, especially b/c she didnt seem like she was really excited for htem. Again, her B-day is March 16th and im going to text her with a simple "Happy Birthday, Hope everything is going well!" and leave it at that. In a perfect world she will respond with something simple like thanks or a "yeah things are going pretty well".....honestly anything that oculd just open the door for some communication again would be perfect. My biggest fear is that i will hear nothing back or that she will tell me to leave her alone. Like i said earlier, she was really surprised i didnt try to win her back on valentines day and told a mutual friend of ours that she was relieved...i dont know if thats just her trying toact strong or what? I mean why owuld she come home from school on a weekend she thought i was going to try to win her back, asuume that i would try something, only to be shocked that i didnt, and then say she was releived? If she didnt want to risk it, why not just stay at school? Any thoughts?

dude... u still havnt figured it out yet? idk wat more to tell u... u ignored eveything ive said just about. of course shes avoiding u... of course shes trying to be out of sight out of mind... of course shes being strong to her friends n for herself... of course shes trying to eliminate contact with u... shes trying to forget u completely... u guys were together for how many yrs??? theres no way those feelings go away over night. there is something about ur life that she doesnt agree with that u havnt gotten the hint for yet... n idk wat it is she wants... but by her actions its obviously a big deal to her. she doesnt want u to leave, she most likely wants u to figure out wat ur doing wrong n to fix it. its up to u not to let her forget about u, but u have to play it veeeerrryyy smart... i cant guide u ne further than this... bc if u cant understand everything ive told u... u dont love her as much as u SAY u do. i learned all of this the hard way... hopefully u wont... cheers n gl.

Rather than texting her, you should send her a card - the old style paper card and not an e-card.

It should be very simple card, without any lovey dovey stuff on it. A simple plain card with something like "Happy Birthday etc". Just something that suggests well wishes for her. If you have never sent her card except for on Valentine's day - it will be a good surprise for her and something hand written makes it personal.

Whatever you write - make sure there is no love dovey feelings implied or otherwise.

You want to get to know her as a friend all over again. Don't rush into things and be strong.

Hope things work out for you

Its not a game, a game only has one winner and one loser. Its Life. Straight up, just gotta let it flow by. You can't lose yourself because your expecting something from somebody else. You gotta expect the best from yourself, no matter how hard it is to build that back up. You don't want to expect anything with high hopes from her because if what you want doesn't happen then your just going to dig yourself a deeper ditch to fall into. I've been through this recently and the hardest part of holding on was letting go. But once I did I was able to be happy for myself again. Go out meet new friends, find new hobbies, concentrate on your future. It gets easier if you let it. Forget(not 100%)it for now, your still going to care but your going to learn how to live your life again. If you haven't lost yourself then you haven't lost anyone. Stay up