ive been with my girl for 9 years and shes 11 years older th...

ive been with my girl for 9 years and shes 11 years older than me. im 28 now.

we were living together for nearlyy all that time up unitl december when she moved house. i could have went with her but never. we still met, me going there and she coming to me but i got lazy and never worked for the last year and a half while she worked 3 jobs. boy do i regret that now.
2 weeks ago she said she met someone else. since then she wont let me in her house and i know he goes there. she says that hasnt slept with him but its killing me every second of the day and ive lost everything.

she came and saw me last thurs and fri for around and hour and we had sex. i tried going to hers that night but she wouldnt let me in and i got threatened by this new guys brother, saying he knows where i live and to look out. we spoke on the phone that weekend and she came to see me on monday again for around an hour where we had sex again. the next day i try to meet her from work and the brothers there again, telling me to leave her alone and she went along with them. i told the brother that wed been having sex still and that i love her more than anything in the world. i let him know that i didnt want no trouble, just my lady.

it seems like im in a lost battle but i love her more than anything and shes breaking me to peices. i want her back,just dont know how its gonna happen

i suggest that you get a job. wether a women likes it or not, in our subconscence, we look for a man who could provide for a family some day. show her that you lent our lesson and that you are responssible. maybe she will look at you are more then a fuck friend then. she obviously still has feelings for you. just proove to her that you learnt your lesson.

i wish you luck

Your right. since she told me ive been out and about looking for work like crazy. I had an interveiw with some place today and it looks promising. thing is though she says she wants to see consistency, not a 3month thing, to me it seems she thinks by then ill be over her.

i havent eaten propely since she told me,probably losing a stone and a half in the process, just drinking and losing my mind.

ive also lost all my m8s as most my friends were hers. just been sitting in a room going crazy worrying about my future. i really have nothing without her and it just seems its gonna end this way. ive tried calling her in the last 2 days telling her that i still feel the same, begging her to come and see me. she just says that shes heard what im gonna say before and thinks im gonna try it on which i probably will. she says she gonna come round tonight but said the same yesterday. boy its tearing me apart