I've recently ended it with my boyfriend of over a year...

And its pretty hard.
I know this sounds crazy but because i was
soo used to it i miss someone telling me what to do and what to wear and so forth.
I shouldn't use the word 'miss', i'm just finding it hard to move forward..

This guy said he loved me, but wouldn't do
anything for me...
He was soo controlling its not funny.
I couldn't have any friends but he could, any gender...
I couldn't go where i want but he could..

And Is talking to a girl for hours everyday,normal?
i mean like paragraphs of text messaging every second till like 4 in the morning while I am there?
and when i ask if he would stop he says no, and gets aggressive and abusive than starts to pick on me over her. Comparing and saying how horrible I am..
This girl was my friend. I couldn't even talk to her, but when he decides to it's all ok and i have to deal with it.
She thinks nothings wrong with it but i found it very uncomfortable because of what some of them said...
And how he went on about her everyday, constantly talking about her...
Should i of put up with this guy?

I agree with your choice and your assessment. It sounds like he was more interested in her than in you, but then if this is how he acts as a boyfriend, you should warn your friend about him in case he does the same thing to her that he did to you.