LDR with alot of crap mixed in..brace yourselves..long story..need BIG time advice...URGENT

Soooo..i met this girl on a date site..weve been talking since about november..we talked for alot of hours texting and talking on the phone..well she finally came to see me in janurary..comparison of a drive from virginia to new jersey..everything went perfect..i told her on the phone how worried i was about meeting cause i thought she wouldnt think i was cute etc...shes seen my myspace pics..i have hundreds..she told me..she knows shes gonna be attracted to me..well when we finally met..she ran up to me and hugged me..everything was perfect..we ended up having sex later that night..and a few more times during the trip..we spent 3 days together. well we decided to start a relationship..it went good..we decided we could see eachother every 2 weeks..sooo 3 weeks later..i went to her..this time it was a lil more stressful my brother and a couple friends took me down there..the snowstorm stopped my bus from getting me..and my brother had to take my car backdown after taking me there in the 1st place..the weekend went well again..hand holding..kissing..sex..everything went great again..but it was a lil more stressful cause she was worried how i was getting home..well my brother came back all the way down to get me...cause i had work the next day..and she said she couldnt take me a few hours to meet them..cause she had to be home..cause her grandma was worried..sooooo my brother and my friends were pissed off at the fact my gf couldnt meet them halfway.. and that was the last time id see her..

trust me it gets better

we still talked nightly and daily..everything seemed good..than she got distant..and we talked less and less ..and i finally said..whats going on??? why are u talking to me less and less..and she said..she still has feelings for her Ex..so she goes..i need time to think and in a few days ill tell u my decision..so i knew it didnt bode well for me..hes there..im here...well she picked him..about a week later..she texted me.. "so i guess this is where u distance yourself from me for good huh" i ignored her..she kept texting..i finally picked up when she called..she told me..she loves me and misses me..and everything was back to normal or so i thought.about 2 more weeks later.. ok i forgot some key details..before we started talking..she was talkin to another guy..who she claimed she didnt have sex with etc...i found it weird that she had his parents phone numbers as well..i called her out on it..she promised that she didnt do much with em cause he was a playa...and a liar...well on the computer..we got into an ugly fight on aim about feelings etc..and she told me..she cheated on me..the week after she started dating me..she told me the "playa" called..and she didnt know how to handle missing me..and went and had sex with him..cause she had feelings for him still..this pissed me off..that she cheated on me..i ignored her for days..she said she was sorry..and wanted to see me..and basically suckered me in ..i began talking to other girls..and she demanded to see their myspaces etc...and stupid me would show her..and she would say things like..ewww shes a whore..im much better than her..im better in bed than she is..ill treat u better etc... i ended up talkin to "playa" on the phone..cause we talked on myspace..and i wanted to ask him what the situation was with the cheating..well it turns out..she texted him "is there any hotels in NJ by you" him being from there..was like wtf!!! ironically enough he has the same name as me..which is why he got the text in the 1st place i was supposed too..which led to them breaking up in the 1st place.h. so basically im involved with "playa" and the ex... she needs to know every detail of who im talkin too..and what im doing..but with her..its like not an issue..she says well u choose to tell me..about this "playa" the impression she gave me on him makes sense...nonstop bragger...nonstop bullshit..the guy wants to buy my car..cant he just go to a dealership if hes so damn loaded...hes self so absorbed..shirtless ab pics..i got abs too..but i dont show em off in pics like some kinda tool..

okkkk sooo..she gets mad cause she finds out i talked to him etc..explains stuff..tells me not to believe him that they lied..she told me..if she admitted she cheated on me..why would she leave other stuff out? i went with it..damn im gullible...sooo her phone is shut off..or so i think...shes been talking to me through her grandmas phone..texting me calling me etc..i really wonder in my head if she got her phone number changed..but it wouldnt make sense to if she is talking to me...well the "playa" keeps calling me from different numbers..he seems to have a new number everyday..turns out..hes banned from going on this girls yard etc..cause they had a very ugly fallout..she asks me..if hes called lately..and askin if acertain number comes up thats his area code..and she doesnt pick up..he calls me asking if ive talked to her..and i play stupid..and he asks me..if she got her # changed or something..i said idk...i havent talked to him in like 2 weeks myself..and well prior to this... listen to this one...

were on the computer..and another ugly fight happens..i ended up telling her to die..told her she had stds..to stop breathing cause shes dead to me...she told me..dont call her..dont text her..that im no longer to call or text her grandmas phone..cause she saw that..she was saying stuff herself...just not as bad as me..sooo she calls me later that night..and says she loves me..but wont come and see me..cause i dont deserve it..i asked..what would happen if u came here..she said..we would prob have sex 1000 times..and than when i leave..were back to where we started..the distance is too much she said..and how i really hurt her saying that stuff...she cried..she told me she loves me but doesnt feel the needyness she used to see me..since its been so long..she said she thinks about me but not as much..and i was like ohh..so i m here till something better comes along..and she goes..my EX has a fulltime job..a house etc..and i could go back with him but im not..dont u dare say that to me..cause that would be better... i said ohh ok..whatever than..go back to him..she told me..it wouldnt work..and he isnt what she wants... well we still talk daily..despite me telling her to die etc..thats gotta mean something right? idk.. i turned down a 32 hour a week job for weekends..cause i was worried i wouldnt see her..and it turns out im not seeing her anyway..THAT WAS STUPID! definitely stupid of me..she doesnt call back when she says she will as much..she says she loves me before we end a convo on the phone about 50% of the time..and i can tell where every convo will go just on her voicetone..shes got depression probs..and i sorta threw that in her face during our fight on the computer..telling her youre an unhappy bitch.. who doesnt appreciate anything..yea that was dumb of me..but i blew up..she sends i love you text messages randomly..than doesnt respond when i do..idk..were drifting more and more lately..and i dont have the money to make a trip down there..and she dont have it to come up here.. im lost on this whole situation..is it going anywhere..do i give up? does she really love me...do i ignore her to see what happens? im truely lost and need "guys" help... he helped a guy named jhen awhile ago..i feel like him right now except my situation is LD THANKS..any help is appreciated urgently!!!

where the hell is everyone?

dude honestly she just likes u for the sex shes just waiting for you to be able to drive down there and give her the d and the only reason she talks to u now and then is to make sure u still want to do stuff with her just tell her shes an ass

yea idk..well long story short..she ended up getting pregnant by another ex bf..umm and she says she still loves me.. how weird is that..im just gonna cut all ties..do i really have a choice? she had the balls to say to me..if things dont work out and im not happy with him..im not ruling us out..it irritates me that this happened..