Let's have a positive post.... Stories about people who have broken up and gotten back together.

Looking through all the posts, I haven't found one with a "happy ending" yet. Call me a typical romantic or just delusional, but I do believe that if two people are meant to be together, they will always find their way back to one another. Or, when two people love each other so much, they are willing to ride out the waves together, and end up beating the odds.

So, with that said. Anyone have any stories about people getting back together after a break up? It doesn't have to be a personal experience, it can be based on other experiences you may know about or heard of. I just think this may help bring a little bit of hope to everyone

Wish i could give you one...im sure there are one or two out there though.

it can all work out, its just very difficult

I've got one for you...my friend was with her boyfriend Tom for a couple of years when they were at college but they had a few problems and in the end she ended it as it was just too hard and they were hurting each other a lot. After that she met someone else (Mike), went off to university for three years and then broke up with Mike and went travelling for a year. When she got back from travelling, Tom contacted her out of the blue after all those years apart and they started dating again. They have been together ever since, moved in together and are now happily married! So yes, there can be a happy ending to all this sadness! I know a few couples who have broken up and got back together, of course I am now hoping I will get back with my ex one day.

I think you just have to remember that you never know what is around the corner, that is the beauty of life

I think the reason you don't see too many success stories on here is because people who are happy with their relationships generally don't look for a site like this. I know I only discovered it when my gf broke up with me a month ago.

I have heard of people who get back together, some weeks after a breakup and some years later after one or both of them have been married and divorced.

I'm afraid i'm not one of the success stories...yet, my gf broke up with me just over a month ago but we're still in contact. It was a strange breakup because unlike all of my previous ones she said she can't bare not to have me in her life because i'm such a wonderful person so she really wants to be friends. I'm being her friend and lately we've been getting closer again so i'm obviously hopefull of getting back together but this is very much up to her.

I think being optimistic is what keeps me going and the thought that we will get back together.

Thanks for sharing, Natasha!

I completely agree with you. I am a true believer of fate and that everything happens for a reason. There are no coincidences.

Here's a story I found on another forum:

"My bf and I had broken up after 2 years of living together about 18 months ago. We had some communication problems that led to little things building up and blowing up in our faces. I also had some past issues (abuse and control) that led me to feel very insecure and to try to control alot of our home and relationship. I came here to Enotalone in December 2004 about 2 weeks after it happened.

My bf and I decided after a brief seperation that we wanted to try and work things out- that was key- that we BOTH wanted to work on it and put in the time and effort required. We struggled for a few months, but then things really smoothed out and we got back together shortly therafter. After 5 months of being back together and with things going really well, I moved back in with him last summer again and things have been great.

It's a very hard thing to go through- even when there is no one else involved ( as there was not with us-) it's hard to gain back trust and faith that the relationship can withstand bumps and potholes that any normal, healthy relationship goes through. But, ultimately, with time, good communication and effort, you can get that trust back, and in the end, end up even stronger as a couple than before.

I have no regrets about our breakup- I think we needed that wake up call in order to figure out how to work through problems successfully together and really be a team, and to trust and love each other and be able to know that the other feels the same-- even if we do argue once in awhile. It was the best thing that happened to us."

I completely understand where you're coming from Philip. I am in the same boat at you. My ex ended our relationship after 5 1/2 years about a month ago. She also says she's not able to not have me in her life for the same reasons as yours, and we are at that "friend" stage. However, to be honest with you. I cannot be her friend, at least that is how I feel now, there is just too much love I feel for her.

However, we both agreed that we have never shared the kind of love we had together with anyone else. I know it's going to take a lot of time, healing for both of us, and a chance to better ourselves individually before we consider trying again. You know when you just know? That no matter what and how long it takes, that some day, you two will be together again? That's how I feel. So, now I take things day by day and leave it to fate.

I also believe in the saying, "It's never over, until it's over."

My cousin is one such story. He was with his partner for 3 years, then they broke up and it looked like they'd NEVER work out. But, after nearly 2 years apart, one day he went to visit her after she went to hospital for almost complete blindness in one eye, they soon got back together, and 1 year later they were married. They've now been married for a year, and they are very strong together.

I do hope my ex and I eventually get back together like this. I can see it happening, but spending so long without her is going to be very difficult. Not knowing whether she will EVER give me that chance is what makes it almost unbearable.

No worries! Yep so people can work it out and get back together. Sometimes it's just about timing, or sometimes people just need that space to figure out what they really want.

I feel that to have a successful relationship, you both need to be happy in other areas of your lives and if you are not this can put a lot of strain on the relationship and often we feel our only option is to break off the relationship at the time.

I think that if two people are meant to be together and it doesn't work out initially, they will find their way back to each other. If it is not meant to be, then the break-up will ultimately help lead you to that person who is right for you

I think the toughest thing must be knowing when to move on. I'm at the point where I ma friends with my ex but honestly not a true friend in the same way as my other friends. The reason is I love her and everytime we meet up I keep thinking that i'm getting one stage closer to being back together and i've had to force myself to just keep my emotions hidden - Ask jayspop about that because I made a huge mistake that could have cost me the chance of getting back with her.

I've not really moved on even if i'm creating the persona that I have but I know deep down that at some point I may have to just move on. I've created the persona that I have because I thought its probably the best chance i've got to get her back. If I have to do it for real its going to be really tough.

Thankfully I can read the other threads and replys on here and realise that at least i'm not the only one and there are people far worse off than me.

It's tough, I know. I am going through the same situation. But I think if you both really care and love each other, it's important to have open lines of communication, so no one is left in the dark about how the other feels.

I know it's also difficult when a break up is so fresh, but give it some time and go with your instincts. Both parties need healing because if you want to give it another shot, BOTH people have to want it and give 100% to make it work.

My ex admitted to me this weekend that she has nothing left to give, that she had given her all to me the last year of our relationship, and now she is empty. It crushed me to hear that, but I'm still not giving up because I know we have something and our love is genuine. I'm giving her time and space to heal because that is what she asked for and I know it is what she needs. I also let her know that I'm here if she needs me for anything. It sucks to not be able to talk to her regularly like before, but I know it's the right thing to do now. In the meantime, I am focusing on bettering myself for me.

Hello Everyone-

I would like to share if I may because I know I fit into this harmonious widget of getting back what was once lost. Let me preface this, however, with the fact that WE are still in heart negotiations but it is moving forward as expected and THIS TIME I am very conscious of the mistakes that caused the relationship's demise in the first place, while ALWAYS knowing that preventive medicine is an essential anecdote for a substantial future down the road.

Phillip Swift (James) is well aware of my situation and I have been diligently giving him assistance to his heartstrings, while hopefully providing the tools necessary to tune that "heart harp" of his for the future.

Take a gander at some of my previous posts to the links I have provided below:

http://www.relationshiptalk.net/im-looking-to-get-my- ex-girlfriend-back-for-good-and-i-could-really-use- some-support.-2561432/Page8.html

http://www.relationshiptalk.net/my-girlfriend-of-13- months-dumped-me-because-of-stress-and-me-adding-to- it...i-want-her-back-3408732/Page4.html

And while on this subject, I wanted to express to, “Member-Don’t Stop Believing”, that I have written a blog article that is ironically titled, “It’s Never Over Until It’s Over”

Below is the link to this article:
http://www.relationshiptalk.net/its-never-over-until- its-over-246.html

Having said this, I want everyone to understand that I am certainly not out of the woods yet but I am on that proverbial “yellow brick road” at a steady pace.

What is most significant is that we are deliriously happy with each other and much better, as we progress towards the "new & improved" relationship, simply because the friendship is a solid foundation built on trust, respect and honor this time around.

Sure, it was disappointing that I had to retake the class but I am learning a new lesson the second time around and currently studying for my final exam.

I plan on getting an A+ in Round II and my “Happily Ever After” will be reached because I, too, believe that love ALWAYS prevails.

Jayspop:

I have read many of your posts on here, and I just wanted to tell you that your optimism and positivity is very encouraging and contagious! I've also read your article on "It's never over, until it's over" as well, and found it to be very uplifting.

I'm happy to hear that you are closing in on your "final exam". It's true that building a solid friendship definitely creates a better chance to start a brand new relationship. It is a healthy approach if both parties want to grow and learn to rediscover and reconnect with one another.

I hope things work out for the two of you! My hopes is to have the chance to build something as strong as you have had with your significant other.

Thank you, "Don't Stop Believing" and I am sure you will because the heart is a terrible thing to waste and...

...someone's heart is ALWAYS in need of another.