Love each other/breakup/after 5 yrs is there hope?! what do I do here?

My bf of 5 years just asked me for a break and then now it's more of a break up. We weren't fighting we didn't very much anyway. Just over normal things.
He said he needs to have alone time so he can figure his life out and get his life together. He doesn't have a job and I have had one the whole time we have dated translation: I have paid for pretty much everything we have done in the past few years. And I go all out for bdays and christmas and things like that. I told him he was always enough for me and I wasn't worried about the money and he said he isn't enough for himself and that he wants to be able to give me things that I want and he wants to give me. He said he wants to try to find a job and get some money saved so he can move out of his parents house(we were both living there) and then he was thinking he would call me and see where things go. But he doesn't know how long it will take. He doesn't want me to wait around and be miserable. He said it is time for him to grow up and be a man instead of letting me take care of him. I said well why don't I just move out and focus on my life and you on yours and we'll still be together and date and he said he knows if we do that then i'll just be a phone call away when he needs money or soemthing he knows i'll jump into save him or help him out with whatever. He is a pretty honest person always has been even when I didn't want to hear things. But i mean this is just hard on me. I don't know how or what i'm suppose to think.

I believe him I guess when he says he is doing this so he has to be on his own so he has no one else to help him and give him the push to grow up.

But this hurts so bad. We had our whole life planned together he talked about kids and everything with me actually even a few days before the break.

He just said he has been really confused as to where his life is going and that he had been praying about it for a while which i know is true because he also asked me to pray about it too.

I don't know I guess I'm looking to see what anyone thinks about this situation and I"m sure there are things I have left out but ask me questions so maybe I can help talk this out and find some peace.

Thanks so much!

maybe hes spending so much time helping you that he has lost track of his own life. dont take this the wrong way. he has probably been helping you the whole time. maybe its time to return the favor. dont make it a giving relationship, that is giving to you. alot of girls want the guy to apologize and when its them always doing it what happens when its there fault, they make the guy apologize again. sorry trying not to be biased. but maybe hes not saying he wants ot break it, its more of ive helped you and i havent helped myself lately. it would be your best interest to help him and that will make you stronger making it a 'win-win' relationship.

I was dating a man, the one i still beleive he is. for a year. Our relstionship was amazing, we loved each other so much, and we still do. 6 weeks ago i got drink and yelled at him, i said things that i regret, the thing is i can not remember what i sadi, but i know that i hurt him. Anyhow, we have texted and talked almost everyday since, there were days two if at all that we didnot talked. it is so hard for me. i love him and mis him he told me last saturday that he missed me and loves me still. The thing is , he is older then me, he has two kids. He is divorced two years, he has dated many other women, but his paretns help him with the rent, he has to file BK,he has not paid taxes for two year, he has no car, etc. i paid for a lot but did not mind becasue i love him and his girsl, we broke up and it misbrle, the only thing i can tell you is to give him his time to wokr on him, and this time work on you. I have never lived on my own,was married for 12 yrs. then lived with a boyfirend and then my parents, this break up with him is the hardets thing i ever have gone thru, oncluding my x husband. I am givign him his time and space, and hopeful that is his love for me is real, like he has said before that he does love me, just he does not need this ( us) right now, i have not ever waited for a man, but this guy is different, i know in my heart he is everything i want and need in my life, he givs me so much happiness in my heart, and i just wish things would work out for the best. I miss his kids and him so much, but you gotts have faith andhope and God to get u thru this. Give him his time, stop all contact for 3 weeks, i am on three days and he text me the first day, he was a little jerk, but it was him contacting me and me stopping contact so we would not fight. Try it, its everythign i have read over and over in all that i have looked up to get him back. I just hope it works. Best of luck to you, i know how muchit hurts, i still cry every day. i miss him so much.

think of a man who has kids and is having his parents pay for his rent... he doesnt feel like he's a man and if you were still in his life he wouldn't be able to provide for you either.

that bruises his ego. i dont think you'll get anything serious out of him right now until he gets his money act straight. of course his kids are going to be number 1 and supporting them.

tell him you're there for him with emotional support and love him. but i know it hurts but you deserve better and can do better!

break it off for now... until he gets his life on track. focus on yours!