May be time to move on...

http://www.relationshiptalk.net/ex-girlfriend-has-me-a- mess-3750932.html

It has been over 4 months since i seen her. The longer thread is linked above. I just had some updates and need some advice.

I have stayed in contact with my ex for these 4 months through email,text, and calls(Not everyday, maybe 1-2 times a week, initiated by both of us) . But I always seem to tell her how i feel when we talk on the phone. She even tells others i wont let go. But then she texts/calls and tells me i deserve another chance but just not right now. Is this her way of letting me go nicely?

She doesnt want a relationship with me right now but tells me she still wants me in her life for many reasons. She said she would see me only if i didnt try to win her back and it would be someone casual and non date like.

She has told me before she is afraid of seeing me because she thinks that would cause her to want me back and bring back old feelings...

I am leaving her alone right now. She sends me random texts every now and then and always asks me about other women on the phone, but also doesnt hesitate to tell me what she has been up to...

Any advice? Am i heading for only a friendship in the future?

If you’ve hung in there this long, why give up now? She says she wants you in her life, consider this a good thing! The fact you are routinely communicating is also good. Every encounter you have you have the chance to show how that you love her 100% and will put her needs ahead of yours. One area of advice would be to stop sharing your thoughts/feelings – she knows how you feel and every time you mention that it might make her feel a number of negative emotions – guilt, pressure, etc…just play it cool and continue the dialogue. Be the great guy to her that’s she’ll eventually want to be with in a romantic sense again.